Ok, my stepmom verbally abuses me. She calls me w***e, Bi**h, and verious other names. She hit me once when I was 5 for not wanting to eat tomato soup. She backs me into a corner and yells at me, while my dad stands there and watches her. When I try to talk to my father about it he denys it ever happened. I go there ever weekend. What should I do? Whenever I try to leave, he locks the door and threatens to call the cops.
You don't need to censor yourself on here. As far as your problem goes, you should talk to your mom, or whoever it is you live with on weekdays.
I think you're old enough now to where the courts can't make you go visit there if you don't want to go.
DO NOT GO BACK!! tell your teachers or an authority figure you can trust, no one ever deserves to be abused verbally or physically.
It's not a question of whether or not you love your dad. The issue is that your stepmom is abusing you. The two have nothing to do with eachother.
i was in the same boat a couple years ago but i surrounded myself with people i love and love me back. its a hard thing to get through but be strong and know who to go to for support. just try not to hit back, that will get ya in trouble.
i know to some degree, but seriously just do what you feel is right. you cant change her but you can find ways to avoid it. my mom is an alcoholic and would throw dishes on hte floor to try to hit us, said things like she wished all her kids were in the wrld trade center when it happend, and cursed so much at us. luckly my friends were there for me and always helped me through each time. thankfully they are still by my side today. do you have any friends you could call or stay over there house? maybe get a job to avoid being around her. have you talked to your dad about it?
My dad denies that a problem even exists. We say he lives in his own little fantasy and nothing can go wrong there. And a few of my friends have offered to put me up for the night, but I don't know what their parent would say.
dont worry about the parents. it would be good if you were in a safe comfortable environment. maybe if you talk to your friend and get him/her to explian it to their parents it should be ok.
Your dad can visit you at your mom's house (assuming that's where you live during the week.) until he gets his act together and can admit that something's wrong. It'll give him some thinking to do. Let him know the reason you're doing it. Don't back down. Lots of hugs, sweetie!
I swear I think we share the same stepmother....YIKES. But to top it off, my dad was a dickhead too.... I would defintely tell your mom of the situation and tell her you don't feel comfortable visiting with your dad with your stepmom present. Your dad needs to step up and be a man, and get a grip on reality. He can replace any old B*tch but he cannot replace a daughter. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope for the best for you.
the reason your step mother abuses you is because your dad allows it. i am quite sure that your stepmother was probably abused as well and therefore until she gets professional help it will continue. and although you love your dad i question his role as a parent who is supposed to protect you from people like her. he is what i call an enabler. i'm sure he knows that what she is doing is wrong but she obviously controls all the relationships in her life, i think it's time you or someone you trust put this abuse to an end. we all have choices in our lives, my mother was severly abuse by her mother both physically and sexually, my mother could have fallen prey to the continuous cycle of abuse but she chose to not put her children through what she had been through.my parents never layed a hand on any of us kids and now our kids are also free from abuse because we chose not to abuse either. if u love your dad enough to make excuses for him love him even more and get help, for you and him because frankly i feel like your stepmom is abusing both you and your dad. good luck to you sincerely
