Good age to have kids

Well, biologically, I'm pretty sure your body is most prepared when you're, like, 16 or 17. But obviously most girls aren't mentally ready for it that young. My parents were my age when they had my oldest brother, but I aint doing it. I'm too young. I'm not saying all 20 year olds are too young, but I, at 20, feel too young. Frankly, I don't even want to get into a serious relationship right now, nevermind have a child.

Mid to late 20s, maybe. 26 or 27.

 

Biologically, I would say the early-mid twenties. Psychologically, some women should never have kids, and some women could do it when they are teens. It really depends.

 

Speaking from experience, I don't believe anyone, no matter how mature they believe they are, or how much they want a child, is ready until late twenties to early thirties. You are far more able to handle situations that arise without immature ways of thinking and handling them, and hopefully you would be financially stable at that point to raise the child or children with everything that you dreamed about. And that age is NOT old,maybe only to very immature people that are defensive because they had a child when it wasn't the geatest time, or with the greatest partner, and they try and make anyone who is better prepared feel like they can't do everything with their babies and children. I wanted a baby from very early, but I waited and I am so happy I did. Best husband, great place to live, great friends, schools. But, at any age,if you have a child you know everyone really goes through the same thing at the beginning, unless they have a hired at home nanny, of which I don't have. I have a house keeper once a week, that's all. And I realize that is a treat!!!!!

 

I think the best age to have children is in the early 20's... You have the energy to chanse them down and when they move out that still leaves you enoug time to enjoy life in your 40's.

i had my first at 18 and the second at 20.. if i knew what I know now I would have waited a few years... but I hang out with friends and everthing. It's not too bad.

 

If i have kids it will be in my late 20's to early 30's and i only plan on have 1.

 

*having, lol

 

When i'm ready to have kids. And that is not nowww.


But i know what i want to name them...Mary jane and Alice Dee for girls, and after russian tzars for men (haha, i'm thinking peter to go w/ mj for both spiderman AND weed) and then i want to have animals named after characters from salinger books. I really just want to have a lot of things to name more than anything. Maybe i'll get an ant farm and name them

 

Anytime from now on would work for me just hasn't happened yet.

 

I would like to have a baby maybe around 27 or 28. I'm 21 now so I will prob. be established in my career by then.

 

I know teenagers who already have careers. So financially speaking, they could support a child. I'm not saying this is the case with all teens, but these particular teens are emotionally stable enough to be where they are, and they could raise a child if they wanted to. Funny thing is, they don't want to.

 

I as a male, and what i would like to do in my life, is have a kid around like 23-26, because its important that the mother and father grow and learn WITH the child, rather than just sitting back and watching...IMO

 

Well I don't think parents should grow with the child. The parents need to be there for the child to ask "What do I do now?" If the parent doesn't know either, they're not really the guidance systems they should be. Parents should have already done their mental growing before bringing in a kid they couldn't fully psychologically support. I don't think it's about sitting back and watching or being involved. It's about being there as a responsible support system or trying to "be their friend". And as you can be a friend while being a parent, a lot of kids will hate their parents for choosing parenthood over friendship - but that's the right thing to do.

 

i dont mean like grow mentally, i mean, having a kid while you just situated your life, youre young, but smart..thats the best time

 

For me I think 28-30. If I don't get married byt he time I am 35 I'm adopting and older child.

 

To me I will start at 27 if not then 30, but 27 is the perfect time for me!!

 

I say when you've got your shit together and can do a good job as a parent

I was 19 and DH was 23 for our first.

#4 came last year and I was 26. I love the idea that I'm young enough to remember what it was like to be a kid.

Also I'll be in my 30's when all the kids are over 18. Plenty of time to party!

 

I'm confused. Do you think that parents should try to be friends with their kids or not?

I am going to be the least snarky I can, but I can tell you don't have kids. No matter how much you think you know, life changes immensely after having a baby. There is never enough money or thinking that can prepare you for motherhood/fatherhood.

Parenthood is a learning experience. All things related to parenthood are new. When you bring the baby home, there are LOTS of things that you've never done before, but you learn as you go.

I have never had to give a sex talk, or talk about drugs with my kids (they are small) but at some point I will have to. I will figure it out when the time comes.

I think the last thing that ya wanna do is set your mind about how it's gonna be. You'll surely be disappointed.

I put parenthood over friendship anytime. After your kids are grown up, then focus on a friendship. Kids don't need parent friends growing up, that's what they have their peers for. A parent's job is to guide them in the right direction, so they can live as productive members of society, whether they like it or not. In the end your kids will thank you for making the right decisions even if they disagreed at the time.

 

I'm at this point again where I want children, but I have a year left of college and well I need to have a man for that to happen. Does anyone have these feelings?

 

well said. I agree. I don't have children, but I do have friends who do. You can buy all the books on parenting, but it is learned by doing.

 

i can't get pregnant which i am fine with, but my husband and i have decided we will think about adopting when we are 35ish or so.