Would you date someone who had a child?

Thanks sweetie. You're so kind. Yeah, for me if you love someone you love THEM and things like if they have kids or if they.... (this could be filled in with many things) is irrelavent. As for the "forgiveness" aspect- some things may need forgiven to continue to love a person but having a kid or kids is not one of them. What is to forgive?

 

Honestly:

No, I wouldn't, I wouldn't even consider it. I do not live the kind of lifestyle that would be suitable for a child, and like other people said, am not ready for the responsibility or for the attachment. I love children, and want to have some of my own one day, but dating someone who already has kids when I'm 20.... nah.

 

I would. I actually think women with babies are pretty hot. A fantasy, if you will. But I would not take care of the kid unless we developed a relationship (me and the kid).

 

Yeah, that's the thing. I don't think it's selfish for you because of your age. When I was twenty I wouldn't have been ready for that either.

 

I wouldn't simply because at 19 I don't think I am ready for the type of long term serious commitment that would be required in such a relationship. I had friends who met all of daddy's new girlfriends and it just made things horrible for them. I would never want to be the cause of that. I suppose if the child lived with his or her mom then it might be different, but I don't want to be a destabilizing force in the kid's life.

 

depends on my age and theirs...

 

I dated and married a woman with 3 children. We've been together for almost 21 years.

 

I have a child of my own so its easy to I would definitely date someone with a child. Like someone said b4 men with children usually are more passionate, responsible, and so on. Then my son would have someone to play with around his own age. Plus, I love kids.

 

Has anybody found that 2 people with children have problems? My sister, who has a 3 yr old boy, is dating a guy, who has a 2 year old boy, has kinda had problems. They both are quick to reprimand each other's children(by reprimand I mean nothing much more then saying to knock it off or whatnot) but they're on the defense with their own.

And I disagree with the comment that men with children or more likely compassionate or responsible. Millions of men have children. Some are responsible and some are compassionate. Some are dead beats and don't pay child support. Some have no empathy for crying children and some don't pick them up from daycare on time. Having children doesn't necessarily make one compassionate or responsible, even though ideally it would.

 

I have dated two men who had kids. One had a newborn and one had a 4 yr old. The guy with the newborn was a mess so it didnt last long but they guy with the 4yr old was fine. He was responsible and he had full custody.
I had babysat for YEARS at that point in my life, so when Daisy wouldnt sleep or threw fits in public or got sick, it didnt even faze me. In time she got very attached to me and i found out later that after me and her father split, she kept asking about me.

 

I have never dated a guy with any children but, if one did it wouldn't bother me...

 

I was a single dad at 22. My little girls mom split and I got a crash course in responsibility. I dated several women that thought the idea of a child was better than the actual experience, so I went through quite a few girlfriends. That in it's self wasn't a good thing for my daughter.

One thing the experience taught me was that to be committed to someone means commitment to their kids too. You can't just be in love with the person and expect that that will make everything OK. Kids are more than inanimate objects, more than a possession that someone you think you like, or love may have. They are an entirely different relationship that you have to work at. The people that I dated, were usually really into me, but just accepted or tolerated my daughter. This caused tension and jealousy and I couldn't have a girlfriend for more than a year or so. I know I made a few bad choices, (could never resist the bad girls) but even the "right"choices didn't work for the longest time.

I guess the short answer is that yes, I'd date someone with kids, but only if I liked the kids as well as the woman, and only if they liked me too.

 

Sounds like me except I became a single dad at 21 :tongue:

 

I dated a couple of guys that have children. That was before I got married neither of us have any children yet.

 

just cause someone has a kid you shouldnt write them off any man who wont date me cause of mine aint worth my time

 

i probably wouldnt date a women who had a kid...