the "you live so far away" excuse

Uggghhh me and my boyfriend been going out for a year now. its been great, hes my buddy and we get along great. i seen him sunday and had a good time with him, just he called that night and said you live too far away from me, i cant see you often. he says that now???? i see him every weekend, cause weekdays we have school. and hes too lazy to get a car! i told him ill see him more, i dont even live that far away..like 1 hour and 42 mins. he complaints hes moving nd itd be further but it saves me 10 mins :H i just dont get him. he said he'll try and make it work and get on the train to see me as much as he can but it really hurts he said that. i told him i wanted to get serious in the future and he doesnt mind moving in with me. just im confused. he says this NOW? :&

 

Damn, and hour and a half is still a long time. My girl and I are only separated by about 30 minutes of driving. Of course I speed through most of it, though. hah

I know how you feel, that sort of thing sucks. At least your boyfriend doesn't call you gay when you talk about getting more serious. heheh.. yeah. My girlfriend is planning on moving across the country or to Europe for college. I'm still trying to figure this one out.

 

Whispering...

Your girl calls you "gay" when you talk becoming
more serious with her...???

Why do you think that is.....is she unablet to connect
emotionally or something?

 

In my experience, when people start complaining about the distance, it means that they want out of the relationship but cant think of a better excuse than the distance.

 

^i know i know and thats what im afraid. he said he still loves me and he stil wants to hang out just right now would be hard, i offered a open relationship to put both of us on less stress and of course he said he doesnt mind. i dont mind either :leaving: hehe just we're getting ready when the time comes WHEN we can see each other everyday and he lives where i dream of living, so thats cool. but right now we're looking for jobs for money and summer is coming up so ill have a lot of time to see him. i think we both need a little fun before we get serious because i cant see why he wants out! he seems happy enough

 

I had a boyfriend I used to live 3 1/2 hours away from, but I used to have such amazing times with him and we loved each other so much that I'd go to see him every single weekend for months, until me not liking to talk on the phone finally broke us up. We're friends still, and I'd love to have gotten back together with him (and he expresses the same interest), but he does live damn far away. Pain in the ass really. I never saw it that way when we were dating though. Best times of my life.

If it's really worth it, keep it up. Even when it is really worth it though, it can be mighty hard with all the things that a person does daily to get time.

 

well we're making progress now. he doesnt want me to go away. but still wants us going out. i have no problem with it. i do NOT want a bf in high school cause i hate break ups and you see the person everyday and it gets boring. ^ you are right up there. everytime you wait a while to see them, it does get happier when you see them. i think he said that cause i got lost on my way there lol but it was shorter yesterday and i called him and told him i was 7 mins away and he went, wow that went by fast. hmm but lets see how it goes with the open relationship

 

Distance is always a terrible excuse, in my opinion. Love has no boundaries. Then again, I am the type of person who enjoys traveling and cannot stay at home for long, so I suppose a long distance relationship would work for me more than others.

 

yeah i guess if he's complaining now about the distance something else maybe occuping his time.i guess it depends how far the raltionship has gone emotioanlly my bf would travel miles and miles to come visit me.

 

Bahh to your question about her calling me "gay", she sometimes does that when I'm in the sweet talking mood and she is not. hah

We don't really talk about "getting more serious." To do that, we'd have to move in together or something. how do you get more serious than how we already are, I don't know.

But it's only because she's new to feeling emotional over a guy (i'm special, yay!), she's doesn't like to show how powerless she is inside. She's not like that all the time, we both have our moments. :]

Distance is a bitch, still. She's been accepted into this college in Arizona. So things are going to get pretty nasty. We've been preparing for it, talking about it relatively often. I don't feel that distance should get in the way of love, if it's real.

My advice to you is to stay strong if your heart says it's the right thing to do.