Would you as a girl accept me as a bf ?

I was just wanting to ask any girls out there who could bother replying to my question given the problems I have (Below) ?


I have no full time or part time job but receive a government payment in which I save to pay models, make up artists, apply for filming permits to shoot at certain locations. I finished my study in photography in the year 2000 and have my photography work displayed on the internet and am still doing shoots.

I have spent thousands on all the above and have used up my savings so I have pretty much invested almost everything into myself as a photographer and working on my portfolio and am still at it. (Point being that I currently have no great deal of money in my bank account for my future)

But I can only cope with about 3 months of shooting before I stress out and need to take a break for about a month. The same goes if I am not shooting and have a part time job (but no part time job at the moment).

I have an anxiety disorder which means I find it hard to cope when I go into a supermarket to do my grocery shopping which I do for my mum and aunt as well since 1998 every two weeks. And I also find it hard to relax when I go to the cinema's, shopping centre's etc... but can still do so.

Now with this anxiety 'stress, tension and the pressure' I'm under build up in me and ends up coming out of me every 6 to 8 months with my muscles through my whole body going into contractions and spasms so hard that I grit my teeth as I go through them. I also end up crying and getting really pissed off at having to keep dealing with my anxiety like this. It lasts for about a week or two then I'm ok again for the next 6 to 8 months depending on the amount of stress and tension I go through in that period.

I also find it hard to mix with people because of my anxiety but do so anyway as I have to keep confronting it (Anxiety Disorder) to keep it from getting worse. So I find it hard to go to the doctors, dentist etc... but just deal with my anxiety to which I am very much use to and have learnt to relax through most of it.

If your interested in appearences I am 6', in shape and look a bit like Ben Affleck I have been told. Although this is just a question to any girl out there for your opinion.

So would you as a girl accept me as your bf knowing all this that I go through and work on a relationship with me?

I also don't own my own car but use the family car since I spend my money on shoots and photography equipment.

One more thing being the house I live in with my mum and aunt and the 1/3 of an acre land it is on I will own for as long as I live under the roof but will be sold and split three ways between myself and two brothers when/if I choose to no longer live under its roof.

thanks,

PhotoGenic

 

Isn't my business, but you have no money at all?
So is it really important?
You do your job and you love it...

About anxiety...
I don't know what to say...
Meditate...
It's helpful to me...

If I were girl, I'll be your bf... :jester:
(if it is a comfort to you)

 

photogenic, maybe if you post a picture then we could see you. for all we know u could be a paedophile or whatever... x

 

It doesn't take me long to save frkadela and I mean save a LOT. Yes I do love my job and enjoy it a lot its just the risk I'm taking investing so much money into my photography and not knowing if its going to pay back. I have very expensive equipment worth enough for me to buy a brand new car.

Yes I use to meditate for relaxation.

Thanks for your last comment it is comforting.

 

TreeHugger I don't see why you need to see a photo of me since all I'm doing is asking a question and I don't see how the subject 'paedophile' even comes into this discussion. :H

Nice to see your a Christian by the way as am I.

I deliberately did not post a photo of myself because I am known on this site under a different name and do have my photo up and wish to keep the information I've disclosed in this thread unknown to those I know.

 

I sent you a pm treehugger where I have directed you to find a photo of me. Please do not disclose this information I have sent you.

Thanks,

PhotoGenic

 

I'm going to be objective and I'm sorry if hurt your feelings, but you wanted us to be honest right? Ok I myself am not sure if I would date you because I need stability in my life. Not that money is everything. I'm not completely stable myself, but I have a son to worry about. I love to help people out if they need money and in some cases it has led to me being short on money for my son. I do love it that you are doing what you want in life. Its great that people are passionate in thier work. I really admire that about you. I think others who don't have to worry about children and being stable wouldn't have a problem dating you. Anxiety is a common thing. Even people without anxiety get upset and have break downs. That wouldn't bother me cuz then I could help you through it.

 

No you haven't hurt my feelings wldgrl I like honesty and I'm more stable than that. Yes I understand stability is important especially for a girl with her own child.

Thats sad that you sometimes are short on money for your son. I don't like being in debt to anyone and don't like to borrow money from people. I prefer to save and stick to my own money. I'm quite stubborn about this actually as I am an independant person and like to rely on myself most of the time.

Thanks. Glad to hear that you believe other girls who are more stable and don't have children would consider dating me and its nice to hear there is a girl who would be bothered helping her guy out with his anxiety as is my case.

PhotoGenic

 

Honestly
I wouldn't.
That level of cycular (sp?) anxiety could lead to abuse/neglect in a relationship.
That level of instability is just stupid in a sexual relationship because more often than not, wanted or not, children come from sexual relationships and require stability and income.

 

i probably wouldnt, unless you were really spectacular. i have friends with anxiety/social anxiety issues and its exhausting to help them with it. and the fact that you get bored of work so often/easily would mak eme wonder if you would do the same with me

 

No its not bored of work its too much stress that builds up in me and then as I said need's to release. Once it's all released then I'm ok again.

I definitely agree with the anxiety being exhausting. It burns up my energy quickly and I really need my sleep.

Although one good thing thats come out of my anxiety and constantly having to face it is I have an enormous amount of persistence and perseverance. A lot of patience has come out of it too.

I also had to keep my self in shape and became a health and fitness fanatic (helps with stress, natural healthy high etc..) , working out a heck of a lot although not as much now.

 

No, I wouldnt. I got enough of my own anxiety/emotional problems, I need someone who is the opposite to balance me out and bring out that other side of me. But, that doesnt mean you arent "dateable"

 

Yes I understand some people with problems needing a partner that can support them through their problems. Thanks. Glad I'm dateable

 

I dont have a job, dont have a car, dont have any money, dont have a license, i dont pay for shit, i smoke weed all day by the hour, i do psychadelic drugs, i drink forties, and i would rather kick it with my homies all day on a porch, listen to bob marley and smoke blunts, then hang out with some female... And i still get what i want, when i want, still got females swingin on my dick, left and right, and i kno alot of you fools lie on this forum board, half of the text in the sex topic is lies, exxagerations and straight bullshit, but im telling you how it is straight up, sugar free... And i can honestly say if I were a female i would point the finger and laugh @ a broke ass pot head like myself... But no matter where i go, girls swing on it... I dont spit game, thats corny, irrelavant and old school... I kick back with a blunt in my hand... Girls out here in cali are very aggressive and 9 times outta 10, they will approach you instead of it being the other way around... perhaps its because they watch too much tv... And dont get it twisted, I'm not tryin to rub it in to those of you who dont get none so dont get mad, and im not tryin to brag, i dont do that... Im simply telling you thats what it is and how it is, so deal with it... Looks is a major factor... Without a doubt. But when it comes down to it, Its not about what you have and what you dont have, its all about how you carry yourself...

 

It is called "charisma"

or chemistry

 

Yes something that is either there or not.

 

sorry no thanks, everyone needs independence, self worth, a job and a car in this day and age. we women have enough to worry about financially then to have a broke bf. and i don't mean rich i mean someone who can support himself. as for the anxiety seek professional help.

 

Looks - eh, whatever. Every girl has a different idea of what she does or doesn't like. Me, I like the scrawny little guys; someone like David Spade. How many girls do you know that WANT the teeny un-muscled type? Yet here I am, happily married for 13 years to the man of my dreams; fair features, 5'9" tall, and 135 pounds soaking wet with his hiking boots on.

As for having a slightly different job than most people, it could be tough to find someone that would accept that as a lot of girls really want to be with a guy who has a steady/stable/sizeable income, but there are also girls out there that would LOVE to date a photographer so I don't see that as an insurmountable stumbling block. The whole artist "thing" could be a serious turn-on. Who doesn't daydream about being with an artist of one type or another?

Since I'm married already, let's take this as theoretical but the one thing that might scare me away would be your anxiety issues. I have an 11 year old son who has serious problems with anxiety as well, and even now I see potential problems with him finding a long-term partner. It can be tough to deal with as a mom; I can only imagine what it would be like to work with him as a partner. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. Having to deal with my son's meltdowns on a regular basis, I am ever so grateful when my husband comes home & brings his calm, levelheadedness into our house of chaos. But on the other hand, NOBODY is perfect and EVERYONE comes with their own set of issues. Yours are right out in front... so it would be easier to learn to cope with them since you can't hide them, ya know?

Good luck! I sure hope you find the girl of your dreams
love,
mom

 

Well I'm quite a bit older than you, so No. But I may have in the past if we were compatible, aside from the anxiety disorder. I think you will more than likely find someone to groove with at some point. Just be yourself, be honest and keep doing the best you can do. I think this speaks volumes more than how much cash you have in the bank. Be true to your art and I'm sure someone will come along who will appreciate you for you. We all have our sparkling glorious sides and we also have our dark sides and issues. I've dated millionnaire assholes and flat broke fabulous, sweet men. I'll take the latter any day. In the end we're all responsible for ourselves and that includes Love.


Have you tried Iyengar Yoga for your mind/body stress? Check it out. It may change your life.

Peace.

 

You crack me up Rasprophecy. I hear you and agree with it's about how you carry yourself, but one day you will see you're not doing what you came here to do. I'm sure it's much grander than tossing back forties and hosting "very aggressive cali girls" who are swinging on your ****.