i've fiiiinally been deflowered at the ripe old age of 21! it was well worth the wait...6 hours of bliss with a guy i've been seeing for about a month now. i'm happy that it went so well, but there's only one problem. he doesn't know i was a virgin. and i have no intention of telling him anytime soon...is this as bad as i think it is? really my virginity was an issue before solely because i've been horny as fuck for years now, and not because i was "waiting" or "saving myself." i just couldn't bag the right guy. if our relationship keeps going in the right direction, i'll tell him one day...but i'm worried he might find out on his own because the whole virgin thing has been a hot topic amongst friends for forever and a day now. is it possible this could piss him off or hurt him or alienate him in some way? i dunno, i just didn't think it was a big enough deal that he needed to know. i'm just glad i got fucked. technically, it's my personal business...but maybe this is me attempting to convince myself it's okay i didn't say anything. what do you guys think?
Most guys would take it as a huge compliment that you "saved" yourself for him. Tell him at the right time, like after a round of great sex.
it turns into a big deal if you keep it a secret for long enough... Just tell him that you were waiting for the right guy to have sex with, and until you started dating him you hadnt met that right guy. He won't get pissed about this at all, it'll probably make him feel good knowing that there hasnt been anyone else in you.
It is not a big deal, you're only 21 !! Tell the guy now, dont wait too long, otherwise it's gonna be an issue. An issue out of nothing.