Are you ever at a point where you feel you should end a relationship but can't. how do trial separations work? no we're not married but in spirit we are. and right now, I want him away from me. Anyone ever try one? what did you do? and did it work? by the way, we live together.
IME, trail seperation just means that you are both going to go fuck someone else and then maybe get back together later if you both didn't enjoy it too much.
I think if you spend a couple of weeks apart with no other people on the scene...it gives you chance to see how it is.... If you really want to be together the time away will feel like hell......if not then it will give you an idea of how you are both feeling. Try it as its impossible to think straight when you live together!
I don't know; I pretty much see that as the beginning of the end. You both go out and date/fuck someone else, and that gets mixed in the relationship. Its not really helping the relationship; it just brings new people into it. Just dump him. It's over.
if your not happy own up to it and either try to work on it or end it, don't pussyfoot around when it comes to anothers feelings it wouldn't be fun if it was you that someone was contemplating seperating.
If you feel like you need to end the relationship...end it. I don't understand "can't leave" because you can always leave; its just a matter of how much you are willing to give up to do so. IMO A trial separation is often prolonging the inevitable. If you and your partner want to work things out go to counseling or talk to someone and try to work through things. Leaving for a few weeks is not going to solve anything because the same problems that caused this in the first place will still exist if you try to reconcile. And yes, I tried one. It didn't work. All it did was make us both miserable and resentful...ending in a bitter divorce. Actually, looking back, the trial separation was what ultimately ended our marriage. Haid was right on with his post.... Have I known anyone it has worked for? No, every person I know that has tried "time apart" has ended up leaving their partner or being left. Usually more hurt.....
