I know that this really isnt a "women's issue" but, I thought that I would post it here anyways in case any girl could relate with me, of give me advice. There is this boy, who, I have liked for a really really long time. We only have talked very breifly about 2, 3 times if that. I liked him a lot, and even though we didn't really talk a whole lot, he was in my class and I would stare at him and stuff. Then, summer came and I was over him. Completley. I rarley even thought of him, and, if I did it was more of a "I wonder how he's doing thing" rather than a "i love him" thing. Now, school has started again and someone mentioned his name and I became really flustered. I saw him and all these feelings came back. I know it really sounds stupid, but, I really am upset because I don't want to feel like this. Sometimes, I feel like thinking a bout him is taking over or something, becasue sometimes it get's me upset. Sometimes I can't concentrate in class or I get really distracted or upset with it. This is TRIVIAL, I know, and I am sorry, but, I really don't want to feel like this or anything anymore. I feel like sometimes it is taking over or something. It is weird, because we've hardly talked but I feel so connected or something, it's really starting to upset me that this is starting over again and I can't stop thinking about him. Has anyone else gone through this before? What is wrong?
nothing is wrong.. you just have a crush... or it could be turning into infatuation. i have a question though.. why does it bother you so much? why dont you talk to him more and see if you guys have similar interests? maybe you could get together and get to know each other and go out sometimes... then you wouldnt have to worry so much. i know thats kinda hard to do and at school guys have plenty of girls on their minds so sometimes it feels like a big rat race but what exactly are you so worried about? why does it bother you that you have these feelings? its natural . its called attraction. just dont worry about it so much and try to concentrate despite the fact that you are addicted to concentrating on him haha. i have gone through this.. actually with me it had a bad result i was infatuated for a couple years with a guy who turned out to be a jerk and used me... so dont let that happen but he's probably a nice guy and you should just try to talk to him sometimes.. i wouldnt suggest going up to him and saying hey you are on my mind all the time.. he might get scared off but actually its pretty normal and there is nothing for you to worry about.(unless there are twists to this story that you arent telling me haha like he's married or a cereal killer or something hahaha.. then you've got a problem )
i have gotten crushes on people at first glance before, never talked to them and still couldnt think of anything else for long periods of time... then .. getting to know the person, realized i wasnt as interested anymore haha.. or... in the case of my husband.. realized that i really was falling in love after we got to know each other and we have been together for 6 years
hehehe aww thank you so much for replying! I am upset because I know that it will never happen, I KNOW that he doesn't like me, (although i caught him starring at me before......) and, i never see him this year so really it is a waste. WELL!!!! HAHAH... you said that I should talk to him? Well, listen ot this..at the end of last year i was like, "u know, i know we never talk but here's my screen name" and, he never IMed me..so, that was kind of a let down too. I dunno....I just feel............connected to him in a way.......
haha good luck. this kind of thing used to drive me nuts. just know that eventually something will either happen or you'll get over it. and dont worry about it haha. im probably no help but at least you know someone else has been there
no! You're wrong, you actually are a lot of help, and, yes it does help to know that someone else has been there I seriously hope that I can get over it SOON............... it sucks!
