Being around my aunt makes me paranoid

I really need some advice.

Here's the thing: I have allergies, and my aunt can't stand sniffling. Every time I sniffle, she starts caughing. She's even gotten up and left the room more times than I can count. I know that she's passive-aggressive, and I shouldn't let it get to me, but it does anyway. It's gotten so bad that I'll do almost anything to avoid her. Not only that, but I'm now paranoid that if I start sniffeling, someone will dissaprove. Even if it's a stranger. And if anyone starts caughing, I'm always afraid that it's my fault. Any suggestions?

 

Next time she's in the room, really sniff. Sniff with a boogery resonance if you can. Sniff loud and long and do it every time you're around her. Then she'll be avoiding you. After all, she's the one with the problem, she should deal with it herself instead of giving you a complex.

 

yeah that ^^^^

 

Very true. Thanks for the support. I really should try that...

 

so very true ^_^

 

yeah, WTF, you don't owe HER anything...if anything she should apologize to you! What a bitch!

 

Hey

maybe you can confront your aunt about it and explain your situation. The two of you might solve the problem together if you both cooperate and give consideration to each other. If you just sniff whenever she's around, it could be obvious that you intentionally did it. It may just cause a personal problem between the two of you.



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Yea, that's also true. Thanks. I'll try and work up the nerv. Although, it should be easier to just talk nicely about it, rather than being rude...(I have a pathological fear of upsetting people. It's my WORST fear.)

 

EXCELLENT POINT AGREED

 

I wonder if your aunt is gagging rather than coughing? Maybe she can't stand sniffling because it causes her to gag. The only reason this even occurred to me is because when I was pregnant, the sound of sniffling would cause me to start gagging.

I hope you two can talk it over and work it out.

 

Me, too. Thanks for your support. All of you.

 

its not your fault you have allergies.

 

try blowing your nose verytime you feel the urge to sniffle. personally i really dislike sniffling but occasionally its neccesary.
at anyrate, if your alergies are as bas you you say, and you blow your nose everytime you have to sniffle, then im sure the loud blowing noise will annoy your aunt even more, and she'll prefer you go back to sniffling

 

That's true. They've cleared up a bit in the last few weeks, but it's still a bit of a problem. But, thankfully, she has a job now, so I don't see as much of her.

 

true nuff, repeatedly sniffling is kind of icky. id rather someon eblew their nose than sniffled around me for 20min