I went back to being a Vegan and at that a raw vegan who no longer wishes to consume alcohol? They're going to think I am absolutley nuts.
Instead of telling them that this is how you're labeling yourself, and alcohol doesn't fit into that niche, try just telling them you're not going to drink any more. In their minds, it doesn't even really need to be related, more than just another step for you toward living a healthier life. Tell them how crappy it felt to effectively poison yourself all the time, and how as you educated yourself about it, it just felt worse because you knew better what you were really doing to yourself. At that point, the only sensible thing is to stop doing it, at least for a while. When I stopped drinking liquor my friends did think I was crazy, until I explained to them that drinking didn't make me feel good in any way. It made me feel sick and out of control. When they saw how much happier I was sober, they realized what a difference it really made. It doesn't mean you have to stop hanging out with the same friends... But expect to do the driving more often!
hahaaaaaaaaaaa I've never been the DD...we never have one unless the guys go with us... thanks that is a great way to put it!!...I'll start with 'good news no more sleeping in our cars until it wears off . I'll drive' . I am wondering if I am going to even be able to stick to the no drinking thing. I have no rpoblem giving up food...but drinking's going to be hard especially when I see those cosmos flyin around me...
I know what you mean. I used to drink a LOT. And I mean a LOT. To be honest with you, the only way I could make myself really stop was to go on the road, hitchhiking, by myself. But I had a lot of other extremely messed up shit going on in my life right then, and in retrospect I'm very glad I had the sense to get the hell up out of there. It's only recently, though, that I've actually come to see it as having been a true addiction. A couple of months ago I went to a party and decided to do shots, "for fun, since it's been so long". I didn't make myself sick luckily, and I actually had a damn good time. What disturbed me was that my first urge upon waking up the next day was to head to the liquor store and buy a bottle. After that I realized that's a road I should never start down again. I'm not saying that drinking again that one night was a mistake, though, because I'm glad if I was going to I did it under those circumstances. Now I still feel like I messed up on some level - I've noticed that urge to drink is there again, but maybe I'm also just more alert to it. Anyway, the real point of this - if you have a hard time with it feel free to PM me anytime! Once you get to feeling so much better, you won't really want to go back!
awe thanks I know how you feel. I shock myself at how much I can drink even though I don't do it that often. Everytime I do drink I can easily down 10 drinks and I get so crazy that it scares me. If I could just stop at one or two I would have no problems with drinking. But I love being fucked up on anything it's horrible. I had to do a short stint in rehap for pills last year and the sad thing is that I worked with kids at the time. I feel so guilty sometimes.
I will drink occasionally, but have a low desire/threshold for it, so am lucky in that respect. Being on the outside looking in at drinking gives a diffrent perspective, so maybe that will help your motivation. Anyway you know your friends well, so I'm sure the right words and time will come. You also know yourself better than anyone else, so don't let anyone steer you away from the right path for you. Good luck
Wine can be raw...just be sure to get it organic cuz it can be pretty dirty if it's not. Just tell your friends that your sick of getting wasted and acting like an asshole and wasting your time and money...and your trying to do something better with yourself. Homer Simpson said something brilliant about alcohol once.... It is the cause, and solution, to all of life's problems(lol)
You don't need to tell them anything. If they ask you just say you made a choice not to drink and leave it at that. You shouldn't have to justify the choices you make about your own body/health to anyone. That's the same as you hassling them about drinking. I think it's a great choice anyway. As long as you are happy and doing it for the right reasons in your own mind, it's no one else's biz
