i feel empty. i'm 20. been in 2 long term relationships since i was 15. one was 2.5 years, one was 2 years, and since january i've been single after i broke up with the last guy. since then i've kinda been involved with a couple guys, just friends that became something more for one night and then basically i had to stop anything from developing because i feel like i have nothing in me left to give. the relationships i was in were pretty good for the most part but i haven't felt capable of loving anyone for a while now.. i don't understand this. this idea of commitment or entering a relationship right now freaks the shit out of me, and every time i meet a guy these days it seems that's what he's looking for and that's exactly the opposite of what i want... i don't know what's wrong with me, but i don't even really feel sexually attracted to anyone these days.. and i don't really have any interest in pursuing any kind of intimate relationship.. i guess i just feel pretty empty and incapable of love is all and i don'tknow if this will pass.. i hooope so. bahh.
i think all ya need now is just have a rest from any relationships... just enjoy yourself and your hobbies...time with your friends...youyr work...whatever... it's not necessary to be in a relationship so if ya dont feel like dating, simply dont! feeling empty is smth everyone has to come across after long-termed relationship...and the best cure is to distract yourself... when you are ready for your next relation, love will find you so i think ya have nothing to worry about just live
^^^agree take a rest do something that makes you happy the enthusiasm for love and relationships will come back
sounds like you just n eed some "you time" to sort shit out, figure out what you want from life and a partner, time to be alone and learn to love yourself again. theres nothing wrong wtih being single you know
i cant say much else really, it seems everyone's got the right idea. so yeah, just sit back, put ya feet up from the whole "game", n just breath. for once.
That's funny, I feel empty too...but for lack of a relationship. Actually, it's a little more disturbing than that. I have no faith in human (and especially cross-gender) relationships anymore.
wow. how things change. the night i posted that thread i met a guy who completely revived my passion. i guess life is full of ups and downs. i think i'll stay single but this guy is showing me the fun of the other side again too.. ahh feels gooood.
Good. Well, I've been guilty of explaining things away in societal terms for most of my life. That is changing... For instance, I used to think that the poverty of male-female relationships was entirely due to Christian mores. I used to think the poverty of human relationships more generally was due to bourgeois ideology. More and more I'm starting to understand that problems in human relations also have their existential aspect. Which is to say, they are inevitable. That is after I've got back to reading existentialist works and Freud. For instance, I think gender relations may be hopelessly influenced by sado-masochistic impulses. Very speculative and fatalistic, I know. But in a way, I'm happier this way. I used to be the jaded, know-it-all, that resented my social context with all my might. Nowadays, I understand no revolution, no utopia, will rid humanity of its conflicts (gender related conflicts included). And so I've come to accept things for what they are. I'm a lone individual in an indifferent universe..."alone and unwanted by others" (Robert Creeley). But also "free, wild, murderous" (Henry Miller). I need to find a way to live relatively happily without affection from the opposite sex. That is what I'm working on right now. Such is my "emptiness!"
I am feeling the same, paintedsocks, and it sucks because I don't WANT to be single. I miss that feeling of having someone, but now all I do is turn people away!
Ya See Thats What Life Is About Timing!!!!!! Good Luck And Have Fun, And If You Don't Want A Relationship So Be It
