I feel like I'm gonna be one of these guys who's...

...Still gonna be single when there in there late 20's. Ok, so I'm 18 now, never had a girlfriend, it really seems dim, I turn 19 in the summer and time just keeps flying by, before I know it, I'll be 10 years older and still not had at least a small relationship with a girl. I've been going out to places socialising since I was 15 and ive not even had any real interest from anyone, so I have tried to get out there, but it doesnt seem to really work for me. I wouldnt change my appearance just to get one though, I do have pride and I like to be myself. I try to be confident but sometimes you just have to face reality...

 

why do you wait to be apoached?
if you find some girl that you like, make the first move, it's really not that hard

stop wining and do something about yourself!

 

I did go through a couple of phases of trying that, in bars that I went to. I always got ''I'm seeing someone else'' as a reply, and probably most of the time that was probably a lie. So one day I just gave up and said the right person will come to me, but I don't even know if that is a good thing to be doing.

 

Gosh, I know exactly how you feel Jim. Hugs

 

However, whenever I see someone I like, I usually try to get to know them more. Just me I suppose

 

tryign to pick up chicks in bars is, wel, not a great way to find a girlfriend. at least not of the serious, meaningful variety. have you contemplated dating sitse at all?

 

Jimmy - find something you like to do - a hiking club, a singing or church group, a chess club, college classes, anything. There you will meet like minded people, including women, and you may get to know them, and then you can ask her out on a date. I agree that bars are a bad place to meet someone. Most of the guys there have their well tried out "lines" for their trolling, and the girls usually don't look beyond what they see on the surface (it is usually too noisy to carry on an intelligent conversation anyway).

Internet dating services are also sometimes good, since you get to know someone on the inside first before meeting them in person - it is the reverse of bars. But sometimes the pictures they send you over the internet don't match up to the real person face to face.

19 is much too young to give up hope that you will find someone. Many 19 year olds have never had a long term relationship with a person of the opposite sex. People are getting married later and later - average age in the U.S. is now the late 20s. 95% of all people get married, and you will too.

 

hey, why so pessimistic?

no i dont believe you, everything is gonna be all right

just believe me it's of no use to wait for smb to turn up and approach you...

you do not need to wait or expect...

just live your life and then your destiny will finally find ya

 

I'm about your age too and I've been through that kinda phase before. There's not much you can do. Hoping it'll happen won't help. You've to be more pro-active. If you really belive in going to bars and that, try new ones then. That might help.

Things tend to happen when you least expect. It's a cliche but it's true.