Gay Parents MERGED

I'm curious to know how you guys feel about it. I mean do you eventually want to use either surrogate pregnancies or maybe adoption to get children? How many of you see yourselfs 10 or more years down the road with children?

 

i don't want children, ever
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I would like children perhaps one day, though would be worried about the child's future at school. Wouldnt the child be teased continuously about having two gay dads as parents? And is it even legal for two gay men/women to adopt a child?

 

Hopefully in the future. We will live in a more liberal society. Thats why I'm voting for Obama. He say in doesn't believe in forcing beliefs on others. That would mean he would let us have marriage and adoption rights.

Anyway, I don't really want children. But my boyfriend Garrett does. He wants them badly. Anyone else in a similar situation like that.

 

i want children. i don't want to adopt.

 

Mushie, why not adopt?

 

I plan to adopt one day.

 

YOUR CHILD MIGHT LOOK LIKE THIS

 

First of all I strongly agree with Hoplover1’s statement about Obama. Of the electable candidates he is the most sympathetic to gay marriage and separation of church and state. He is also our best bet to get out of this mess in Iraq. I highly urge people to get involved in his campaign. You can go to his website and become a member; he has a myspace like format that lets you network and find groups and events in your area. Here is his site: http://www.barackobama.com/



As for kids I’m not a very kid friendly person; small children kinda annoy the heck out of me. However, I do enjoy being around teenagers (male or female this isn’t about sex). I could possibly see adopting or giving foster care to one. I don’t even have a boyfriend right now so it isn’t a pressing matter by any means.

 

I'd be willing to have children for my boyfriend if he wants them. Of course I would want them out of a surrogate pregnancy. However, I would not want to be the father of any of them. My boyfriend can use his sperm and be the father.

 

Mushie, how will you have a child if you don't adopt? Artificial insemination? Or would you just sleep with someone you know so that they could give you the baby once it is born?

 

It's not that I'm against adoption. I would just like a child that has my genes and that I created. I would do artificial insemination with a friend; I have a few friends who have told me they would love to carry my child.

Who knows though. I am young.

 

How old are you exactly? I'm just curious and would like to know if you don't mind sharing. That would be quite strange though...having one of your female friends pregnant with a baby that they will basically give away once it is born. I'm glad that you have friends willing to do that as it is a huge decision to make.

 

older kids maybe, babys no way for one I'm too damn old and two I just don't have the patience for the screaming, crying and diaper changing.

like Andy mentioned what about the kids friends or their parents that don't accept homosexuality ? how would you explain to Little Johnnie that his friends don't come over because their parents don't accept the fact Little Johnnie has two dads. Then what do you tell Little Johnnie when he asks why he has two dads and not a mom and dad like the rest of his friends ? What happens when, as the child grows older, they come not to accept homosexuality ?

I would really have to consider all the consequences to birth or adoption on the kid and the reasons WHY I want a child. I know I have all the love to give but I have to look at all angles.

 

Ay, I defo want kids - no two ways about it.

 

Barefooter is right. There are so many aspects to gay adoption and there would be a lot of fear surrounding the child's future. I mean, the kid may even end up committing suicide after being teased about it with no end. I don't know...it so screwed up what people do.

I don't know...Maybe it is just better to not have kids as they would almost certainly have a shit time at school.

 

Well, it really depends on what part of the country your living in. If your on the East or West Coasts then your probably okay for the most part. Though you may have a tough time living in the midwest or southern states. So if your living in those areas and you decide to start having children, then you should probably move to a new area.

 

At first I wasn't really into the idea of having kids but I'm coming around to the idea.

I have some friends who have kids and it just seems to cause a lot of stress which was what initially turned me off. But then I go out and see moms and dads, sons and daughters doing things together and having fun and there seems to be genuine love between them and it kind of makes me wish I had a kid of my own. At the moment I'm not ready to raise a child, no matter how much I want one. I need a better job (it is pretty stable but not paying enough) and a stable relationship.

Like Hip-HopLover1 said, I think it really depends on where you live. Some places will be more tolerant than others.

This video really had an impact on me wanting to have children. Someone posted it in this forum a while ago but I can't seem to find it so I'll post it again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_qf0puHJ-KM

From what I hear, people in the Netherlands are very tolerant of homosexuality and it is usually a non-issue for most there. I'm sure if something like this video aired on North American television, shit would hit the fan.

About the kid being harassed in school... I don't think it would be an issue in their younger years of elementary school but once they start getting older it might. I think if more people were doing it then it wouldn't be such a big deal anymore. Right now it seems like a very rare thing for a child to be raised by same-gendered parents and some people will find it wierd but once it starts becoming common-place then it won't be such a big deal with the majority of people.


Sorry if this response was all over the place.

 

I'm 19.

 

It's quite sad when you think about it...

Hell, even if you don't think about it.