I'm in love with this girl and can't stand to be away from her. These feelings are mutual, it's a beautiful thing, but a little painful since my college life (which puts me an hour in the opposite direction) leaves only the weekends for us to be together. She and her family are vacationing on the opposite side of the country for two weeks and I'm stuck here. We're both sort of upset that we won't be seeing eachother for a while, and I'm already having trouble with it (and yeah, we were together this morning and last night). Hell, I miss her just minutes after I take her home. I know two weeks seems like it isnt a big deal, but we don't have a whole lot of time to begin with. (long story pertaining to her selection of colleges which happen to be in either a. London or b. Arizona . . . schools she has been excited about since she was little, which happen to be far, far away from her dave :[ ) I guess I have a question for you all, those who have dealt with distance for any period of time. What can I do to take my mind off of missing her so damn much? It's just so hard when we still talk every day on the phone (NOT something I'm willing to give up, by the way!). I have a hobby.. my guitars really do help some. I just don't know what to do.
hey buddy. i totally feel your pain. hanging out, laughing with your friends is the best remedy for heartbreak.. and yes, to me when i'm away from my lover, it feels like my heart is broken. so yeah! just busy yourself with friends, family, guitar.. anything to make you SMILE! laugh! have a good time and remember that your girl will be back in only two weeks! the busier you keep yourself, the faster the time will pass! good luck mister!
if you guys want it to work out while shes in college far away, it will. you both will just have to put in a -lot- of effort to make it work. one of my close friends from high school is dating someone here, and shes at least a two day drive away from here (three if you arent crazy). theyre making it work becuase theyre in love and they know its worth the effort they have to put into it
Thanks, to the both of you. I appreciate it. beat: Yeah, I get that heartbroken feeling as well. It's a pain in the ass, but I see what you mean about keeping busy. Part of me feels that moping about it and thinking on it so much is actually good.. but I'm sure that can't be true. I have a lot of things that need to be done anyway. The trouble is that I'm always expecting a call from her, and then she follows through. So I keep myself from being busy just so I can have quiet time on the phone. Allowing myself to go about my normal routine is something I can do for myself, for sure. I need to finish up on things. :] thank you Allonym: We've talked about the whole college thing quite a lot, I already feel prepared to make it work. When I say I love her, I'm not just reciting some run-of-the-mill phrase.. I've never felt this way about anyone. Neither of us are the type to go seeking another partner (out of loneliness, lust, or whatever), we plan to just focus more on our careers while we're apart. That kind of makes it easier, I think. The only problem she has with the whole thing is the idea of keeping me tethered.. which I don't mind a bit! I love her.. Things will work out. I'm planning on moving out of this hellhole of a state, so anywhere she goes, I'll gladly follow. :]
I used to live three hours away from my woman. so we saw each other like...once every month its sucked. I guess you should just keep your mind busy
Oh, I understand you!!! I wish I know the answer to your question! Your situation compared to mine is so easy... I've been already waiting three months to meet the guy I'm in love with, and there are still two months and 15 days left until I finally be able to see him. And we live in two different parts of the world! I live in Poland and he in the U.S. But I'm patient. Patience is the answer. Every minute without him is painfull and empty, but I know he is worth waiting. There is no other way - I just have to wait and try to live my life. But, you know - I thought that only girls tend to be so obsessive about guys they love - now I see it's more fairly
Dont feel like shit about it; try to change the perception (as impossible as that may seem, i know how you feel!) Just tihnk about how happy you are that you actually HAVE someone that you HONESTLY miss, and happy that she misses you. Be EXCITED that you have someone dreading time away from you. Love is an awesome thing, but keep yourself from becoming so upset about the break that it keeps you from functioning. Too much sizzle in the beginning will make a fizzle come really soon! not good!! But hang in there; she'll be back for you soon
