Seriously....every single guy I have fallen for has used the 'but we are just friends' or the 'I value the friendship too much to risk it' line on me! Is is just because I am not terribly attractive? Or is there somthing else I am missing? In the beginning I thought it was just because I never let them know how I felt, and so I tried to rectify that, but its still the same old story. Its just so far beyond a joke now.
To risk what? Sex? Dating? A serious relationship? Moving in together? Personally, outward beauty isn't everything. Personality, sence of humor, out look on life, habits, and likes & dislikes matter more. It's a whole package deal. Maybe there is something wrong with you. Maybe there is something wrong with the guys you start to fall for. Maybe you are so cool, that they consider you "one of the guys", because you have an open and honest attitude. I don't know enough about you, but you sound OK to me.
Well generally they aren't my friends to start with....just ends up that way! I think that I fall more into the 'one of the guys' category. But thats not to say that there isn't something wrong with me or the guys that I fall for too. How do you break the cycle though? I try so hard to. I recently met a guy, I really like him and he knows how I feel....but he seems to be pulling the whole 'you're a really good mate' thing on me at the moment. Generally when they say they don't want to risk the friendship they are referring to either sex or a relationship.
Whel, try changing your atidude. Don't be such a good friend, be more mistyrious, make them try harder to get to know you.
Develop you self esteem better and you will find more than just a "friend". You look pretty hot to me.
