I'm going to be a better parent than mine were

How many times do you find yourself saying that? Or have you found yourself saying that? Today we were out the door to walk into town so that we could get sodas when Daniel's dad catches us out at the driveway (where, might I mention, he's taking down a carport we needed to fix the only vehicle we have so that we can get out of here), and starts bawling Daniel out for not fixing the stupid fuckups he created while he and the rest of Daniel's family lived here. Then he starts in because there's a shitload of drama going on at Daniel's work and starts attacking Daniel's "lack of responsibilty" and about every other goddamn thing in the book you could think of. I don't take well to screaming, that's the biggest reason I spend most of my time here than at my parents' house, he even made me cry... And all I can think of now is how I HAVE to keep a promise to myself that I won't turn petty things into screaming fights.

God, he's such a dick. I'm still upset because I hate to hear people treat Daniel like that...he's his goddamn father for Christ sakes...how can you treat blood so heartlessly?

 

I can't say for sure I'll ever be a better parent than my mum coz she's done an amazing job as a parent but I know I'll be a very different mum. However, my father... If I thought I would make as shit a parent as he has been I would never ever ever have children. Some people just aren't suitable as parents...

 

I love Daniel's mom to death...I tolerate his dad. Knowing he used to be an abusive drunk and he's still verbally abusive...I can't respect people like that.

My own...well, I love mine to death, but still disagree with certain things they've done...but I'm glad I have mine everytime his dad gets to be an ass.

 

Some people are just not cut out to be parents. The problem is this doesn't show itself until they actually are parents. There should be an intelligence and patience test as a prerequisite.

 

There should defnately be some test!!!!

I am the mother of an 8 year old boy....OMG....its the
hardest of jobs I ever i did...

My mothering techniques are quite different from my own
Mum's in that I allow my son to show his feelings, to get
angry and to cry when he needs to without the sshh sshh
thing my ma did....

Also he is far less repressed and is allowed to channel his
emotions into playing music (tin whistle and keyboards),
whereas I wasnt encouraged to do those things..

I grew up with a lump in my throat and chest because I didnt
feel able to speak my truth...

Whereas my son has always been encouraged to speak out...

He is the sweetest and funniest of children...

bless him!

 

I'm just going to have 1 child. That way all my focus can be on one.

 

I'm not sure if I will have a fmaily or not

My parents weren't THE BEST, but they made enough money to send us all to college and keep us fed...not going to even really complain that my dad was dispproving when i was all punk rock looking in high school y'know?

there are things i would do different, and I would be more leniuent in certain ways, but we weren't molested or beatnd like plenty of others......as I've learned

 

Banshee, you sound like a wonderful mother. Thank you on behalf of everyone who wants to see this world become a better place.

Daniel talked to his boss today and straightened everything about his job out, then when we got home, we fixed the stuff on the house that his dad yelled about being broken. It took no time at all. His parents also came and got half of the cats so that we don't have to buy as much cat food now, and we cleaned the living room. Just seemed like it was only fair to actually try to fix the things his dad was pissed about. Things are all okay now but I still don't like his dad. Grrr.

 

i will never have kids and its paritally because of the way my parents are and whats in our family. lpus theres all this talk about over population.


but if i did have kids, id try really hard to raise them different than my parents raised me

 

my parents were fucked up. but i reached maturity with my body and soul intact and i still love my family. i'd say that even though they didn't do the greatest job raising me, the fact that they managed to raise me with the ability to love and forgive and "get the fuck over it" was a damned fine accomplishment. best thing anyone could ever have done for me.

 

My mother says that I will be a much better parent than her.

Anyhow, I was playing with my step-brother's 1.5 year old girl yesterday, the most adorable thing ever... I swear... I could spend hours upon hours with her, babies are just amazing... truly amazing... they make me feel real happiness, you know?

 

Excuse me for having a bad day Nutt_Hugger. It's pretty clear you just read the title instead of the whole thread, since no one is really bitching about their own parents. Anyway, it wasn't MY parents so much as it was just Daniel's dad and I went straight home after the ordeal and thanked my dad for not being an abusive drunk when I was growing up. I should have put my title in quotes because it wasn't about my parents, so sorry if I threw anyone off bitching about someone else's parents instead of my own. As far as my own go, they annoy the shit out of me regularly, but they did an okay job and I love them for it.

 

Don't make any heavy bets on that, dude! I thought I was and turned out to be a loser Dad. Kids always go the other way . . . no matter what you do or think you'd do. It's in the program, don'tcha know?

 

I was an OK dad. I got my two kids to adulthood without a pregnancy or an arrest and I did it by myself while keeping a job, sometimes two. These days that ain't bad. I was definitely a better parent than my own. I never drank heavily around them and never spanked them, much less beat them into a hospital.

 

I think if everyone who wants kids would aspire to be even a sliver better than their own parents, the world would be a beautiful place.

 

Amen, Sister.

 

Very true.

All I know is that I want to have kids at some point... I have only been feeling like this for a short while, but it's a strong feeling, ya know... I have always adored kids... but man... especially being exposed to lots of good kids these last 3 months and then adopting me as their favourite uncle even though I'm not really family... it has been amazing.

 

yeah but id oubt very many parents think to themselves that they want to be worse parents than their parents were, few folks set out to be abusive sons of bitches to their children yknow? just some are dumbasses and dont think about the dmage their doing or recognize how to stop

 

At the moment I have no plans of having children. I know I will have one or two when I get older but at the moment its good just knowing you can give them back once your finished spending time with them.
I know this one kid, she’s about 6 years old and she watches nothing but Dora the Explorer. She’s been learning a little bit of Spanish from it and I’ve been teaching her how to do the peace sign. When I see her I ask her “What does Dora say?” and she replies “Hola”. And then she does the peace sign to me. Its so adorable. Shes kind of adopted me as an older sister 

 

my father actualy managed to succeed in not repeating the mistakes of his father. that's why he adamantly refused to beat me when my mother was often trying to get him to.

never had any kids myself. my parents, when i was little, always just took for granted that sooner or later i would. much as i loved the IDEA of sex when i was younger, i always had and felt other things were more worthwhile and rewarding then persuing it.

not that there weren't a couple of gf's i DID have quite a bit with. but i think i may actualy have succeeded in stiralizing myself with microwave radiation when i was in the air force. at any rate i don't regret in the least not having, as far as i know, ever caused more children to be born into this already over crowded world.

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