A small family

Discussion in 'Communal Living' started by forwardventure, Mar 8, 2007.

  1. forwardventure

    forwardventure Member

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    So, this is an idea that's been kicking around in my head for awhile and I thought I'd put it out in the open and see what happens.

    The idea of a commune has always seemed great to me, and basically, that's what this idea is all about.

    Often times I've daydreamed about moving in with a person I don't know and just striving to make it work. I think it would be such a great exercise in compassion and awareness. To start from nothing, just two strangers, and to move through a journey of tolerance, familiarity, friendship, trust, care, compassion, and ultimately a deep connected love. This could be love in the form of a significant other, or love in the form of family. We've all heard about experimental communities, so why not try experimental relationships or experimental families?

    Plus, in this world that's turned so impersonal and cold with technology, I feel like I would be so blessed to live with and commune with REAL people, to connect and interact with their feelings, their dreams, their desires, their pain, etc. At this point, it seems vital to keeping my sanity, and I'm sure I'm not alone in this.

    My dream would be to live in a house with 4-7 other people, and to grow with eachother. To share our happiness, our pain, our struggles, our ideas, our time. We could all get to know eachother inside and out. We would all support eachother in anyway that was needed. Whatever your beliefs, your struggles, your ideas, you would have people there for you. Had a bad day? You have a family at home that's there for you. Feeling hopeless? We're here for you.

    We could have meals together, do activities together, learn together, do projects together, etc.

    It would be even greater is we attracted other hip people. Maybe our home could be the hangout for local hippies. Imagine how great that would be! In the summer we could build a fire, have people over, pass a joint and make music, sing, share stories. Hip people would always be around.

    I crave a family, I crave unity and togetherness. I want to love and to be loved. I want a support system, a group of advisors, mentors, happy faces, people to do stuff with, people to care for and be cared for by. A sense of belonging.

    So, anyone want to make an experimental family? lol
     
  2. forwardventure

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    It would be a great opportunity to share and expand on your hobbies. Maybe someone in the house knows how to sew and you'd like to learn. If not, we could all learn together and start making our own clothes. We could teach eachother or learn lots of things as a family. Musical instruments, cooking, tai chi, dance, philosophy, survival skills, etc.

    One thing that would be really important in the house is nurturing one another in a way that we can't get in the outside world. For me, I'm afraid to share poetry or other things because of a fear of how I'll be percieved and judged. In our family I'd want to eliminate that fear. I want us all to be free to express ourselved without fear of judgement or embarassment. Part of growing together would be developing acceptance and confidence. I'm tired of feeling like I don't belong anywhere. For once I'd like to live with a feeling of acceptance. That's what I want this family to be.

    It reminds me of a school for the gifted. In regular school a gifted kid feels stifled, like their talents are useless, and they're just another drone. That's how I feel now, and that's what I'm seeking to break free off. Society keeps us down, but together we can rise above and expand.
     
  3. CloudFlower

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    Sounds like a beautiful plan
     
  4. Minibyte

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    Sounds a great idea ,if you were in australia i would love to help start it with you
     
  5. wanderin_blues

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    that sounds beautiful! i hope you find people who are interested. i certainly would be, but i have stuff i need to do alone now. luck to you :)
     
  6. sarathustra

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    Oh i would love to! I've always wanted to do something like that, but i'm stuck here...Not doing that :(

    P.S. You and i have the same bday :D
     
  7. firedragon

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    That sounds like a great idea. I have actually tried communal living with 5 other people. It was an amazing experience because fo the sense of accountability it brings with it as well. Not only do you have to clean-up after yourself you put out that extrea little bit on energy/help for your fellow roomies when they just don't have it to give. Diversity of backgrounds and age groups really helps with the energy dynamic as well. So long story short...yeah I'm in always....with the right people.

    Peace be in you
     
  8. Cosmo4

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    That sounds like an awesome plan! Just make sure that you're with people you know and trust well, and make sure not to have anything except the items that you need the most. I think the idea would really work, as long as each person had about $5000 to throw in for land (we could even go to somewhere in South America) and buy land for cheap per acre. It would be amazing to actually make this work; however, the one thing that I think I need before I could dedicate myself to this type of lifestyle is a life-mate.. someone who I feel completely connected to and comfortable with.

    I don't know.. I'm usually a very quiet guy until you get to know me.. but I think I could form a wonderful relationship.. I'm just weird because I haven't been in that many in the past!
     
  9. Headin South

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    Awesome idea !! read my posts about south america... community and a relationship. You might find it interesting. James aka headin south
     
  10. Kollontai

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    i am familar with your idea, in fact, i am living in hong kong, china now. i want to leave here as soon as possible. i want to leave darkness to a place in which u want!!!
     
  11. FlyingManDan

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    That sounds great. That's the kind of this I want.
     

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