shes told me everything...everything.. the good the bad..every thought & feeling...and shes not always feeling good...shes had urges..for another...when shes felt really low... and she told me..and it hurt... and felt so good...and i can trust her.. not to not have urges..we all have those...not even to not act on those urges... noone could say that may never happen...but i trust her to always tell me...and if theres a reason to feel bad...we feel bad together...and forgive...and get on with what we do best....loving eachother like crazy
I dont think I could lie to you even if I tried (not that I have tried)... is just that I want you to love me, the real me.... no other reason for my honesty i love you, the real you...
i feel the same i know i could never lie to you never would try, but what amazes me is how many things i tell you just for no other reason then i want you to know me fully no surprises no regrets i except and love all even the things that scare me i know i know who you are and what to expect knowing the who and what and why of who you are i know why you feel as you feel and all is gloriosly beautiful loving you is all i want to do the deepest you i love you too
is someone jealous that another is shall i say happy? If i may say i have met my husband on the net and we've been happily together 5 years. Mind you not from here. When ppl are truly happy ... be happy with them. T
soaringeagle and Autentique sittin in a tree K I S S I N G happy for you! althoy, i personaly know that honesty hurts like hell, but i still want him to be honest with me every moment
hahaha no i can see why you say that though, just sayin total honnesty has made this the best relationship of our lives.. but its not all hallmark momments... with total honnesty your guaranteed to hear things ya may not like, nobody is perfect, & it may hurt to hear those things, but in the end it feels so amazing to have that trust, & the openness of the communication allows us to feel what the other would feel if we did this or that, & we're able to say to eachother, yea i was tempted to do this or that..but knew youd feel... in fact we never really had to define it as this or that or ask eachother dpo you want this to be open or monogomouse carefree or committed we just one day realized ok, it seems like this is what we have..the funny thing is, its all those things but the most amazing thing we got is total honnesty, & i mean total..i've met a few honnesst ppl before, but nothing nearly as honnest as this hell, shes shown me pics of 1/2 her freinds 1/2 naked i told her they were really beautiful..& that was that..i had no urge to sleep with em or meet them or anything specual but if i said damn your freind_____ got me turned on..shed be like well..yea shes sexy but that makes me alittle unconfy but its honnesst & understandable & it wouldnt make a bit of diofference..i know who shed turn to if she wanted to be with some1 just to be with them, she knows who flirts with me & how i know which of her guy freinds she could sleep next to without ever feeling any kinda sexualness & which ones cant be in the same room with her without tryin to get her in bed..we know really every detail of every thought, nothing helfd back everything out there, so its noyt any hallmark momment, sometimes threres alittle pain & worry involved but its so amazing to have such honnesty ..trust is the best thing ever especialy when ya see so many threads about i caught my gf doing this..or i found outr my bf likes this..& always makes me wonder how ou can be in a relationship wioth someone & not know these things.. disshonnesty probly kills about 85% of failed relationships although..not every1 can handle the truth at the same time.. being 100% honnest about how wed usualy fuck up..about our urges to fuck up again..& about how wed feel if we did..has made ius grow stronger see ourselves better & become more trust worthy by admitting & aknowledging every thought & urge we knew could be harmfull & discussing them openly. without holding anything back.. its really amazing when you cfan say..well this will hurt you to hear but im being honnest______ yea,,,that hurts alot to hear but thank you for telling me..i sometimes feelk like_____ wow that just made me feel insanely jealouse but i6 think its cause.____we get really to the root of the feelings & understand them from both sides, & never promice to change behaviors were not sure we canm, but really understsnd more fullty what every action means so are far more careful about what we do, but were completely honnest about our tendencies & urges to do them... kinda just been a magical thing... ok, i'll give a hypothetcal example of what i mean about trust..its not what u think\ you think trust means knowing shed never cheat on ya dont ya..wrong..thats blind faith..or else ya think trust comes from watchung every move & making sure she doesnt do whatever.. but this is trust, real trust.. i know on any given day theres a 25-50% chance she might run into an ex and or some1 who wants to be with her..i know 3 weeks ago thered be a 50-75% chance shed do it without question, but today theres an 85% chance she wouldnt,, a 15% she would, a 98% chance if she did her heart wouldnt be in it & would regret it a 100% chance shed be upfront & hoinnest about it wether it was a thought action or even a passing fantasy..these are all hypothetical, , & everytime something like this came up & was talked about honnestly those numbers moved lil closer to total trust..total trust i guess as i define it now is knowing thwat at this very momment, anything coulkd be happening , probly isnt, wouldnt matter if it was..how could we say we love eachother then get angry aboiut either being the way they are, or reactingthe way they do in any situation really if the loves strong enough, & the honnesty complete trust can never be broken, cause you really only trust eachother to be ourselves
absolute honnesty works absolutely this is a totaly truthful conversation her: hun, whos _____ (removed name, someone from the forums) me: oh thats _____ i told you awbout her remember ___(fill in details) her: im alil jealouse of her lil bit me: why? shes just a good freind her ok..just seems to be alot of love there me: yup sure is..weve been through alot tofgether pause me again: umm hun..do u want to know the lil things even if there nothing but might make u feel lil unconfy? Her: thats funny i was going to ask you that too..umm go ahead & tell me Me: well were good freinds.. but..once she did say shed fuck me if we ever met... wasnt like we wanted it or discussed it just it might happen..was nice to know she would but ..that was all.. herr..ok glad ya told me..but umm did u want every detail even if its nothing? me sure ihonnesty has worked well so far her: well u remember that guy i used to sleep with ..he called an hour ago while you were out with your freinds.. wasnt sure if he just wanted to hang out as freinds..or..want4ed sex..so..i asked what he had in mind..it was sex..told him sorry..i fell in love..sex is only for him now he said ahh..i see..say no more..& left it at that me:hun. i knew exactly wht you would say & how youd say it i knew youd turn him down, but, i didnjt expect the love confession her: i know it surprised me to, id never done that before..i just love you that was an edited down & changed slightly version tried predsservimg the feel..which was never what how dare yoiu/.. never any1 feeling theyre whole world crashing down..it was always just honnest & trust & i see so many relationships here fallin apart for simple lack of trust & honnesty with this total honnesty i know that theres a very high possibility of never ever being cheatted on..but theres an honnesyt chance it could happen (c/mon dont pretend it will never happen to u threres allways the chance) & knowing that & us..we know if that 1% chance happened ..wed both hurt alot..and... forgive..because weve always known that theres that honnest 1% chance oh btw hun, forgot to mention it..kinda had a tiny feelin when i went out that 1 of your ex's would call..who could blame em..nobody can drive ppl insane as good as you..but..yea i had a feelin 1 would call..but knew u would handle it well too.. ya notice i wasnt that surprised when u told me? actualy thought it was funny cause it was him..lol i love ya like crazy & i am sooooo happy to have you and its not just abiut sex & othrr ppl ewere honnesst abvout ourselves to a crazy degree..when your so honnest about every thought & feeling its really hard to get your feelings hurt unless it was entirely intenmtional..& if your honnest about feeling like u want to hurt eachother ..well im getting off track here since we definately dont want to hurt eachother..just love eachother like crazy..& i think our key to not hurting eachother is by really being totaly honnest about what hurts & why & also about what we think feel say or do that might hurt & why.. love flows both ways more easily, if you keep the path clean & clear of cluter if u see some1 your attracted to & feel lil guilt & hide it...clutter.. if you hide your own urges & desires..clutter if you sit in sillence & allow yourself to feel hurt...clutter if u cheat, ever cheatted, ever was cheatted on..clutter you can trip over many many otherlil things get in the way of relating, because theyre all allways there,,hidden,aybe but not from yourself..they affect how u love & receive love ,, if your 100% honnes about all things all the time (wow yea imagine that..but i found it somehow) then you cleart away all the blockages to communication & allow love to flow freely..with respect ..& trust hun, a week ago if u told me an ex camlled wantin to get laid i think i woulda pannicked , but now i listen with a certain excite,ment, knowing everything we tell esachotherr just brings us closer..& now instead of the pannicyness at the beginning of the story & the waiting for the "& well we fucked & are thinhking of getting back together" fuly expecting the worse... now rthat that i honnestly know you so well there was a slight anticipation when u mentioned who..followed by just listenng & absorbing & waiting for the innevitable "so ya i told him nah not interested" that i know now if far more likely to be the happy ending its funny, how some past relationships i never felt i could trust when i was sitting with them alone in a room..with you i know u ciuld walk next door & cheat without a prob, & i'm 10,000 miles away..but i trust u..i know youd rather hijack a plane or rab a bank & come here then walk right next door & hun some guys may read this & say ima fool & try covincing me youtr next door anytime your not here but forgivethem, theyre not used to truth so expect lies sorry i've gone on & on...5 am... i didnt intend to write a novel on honnesty im just overwhelmed at how amazing it is..they say honnesty is the best polocy..but noone ever mentioned the high you can get when your so honnest about every lil thing id like other ppl's comments on how honnesty has effected theyre relationships, good or bad, i'm really really tired & thats the total truth..lol but i love how good i feel when im being totaly true with you, truly me & truly you ..just riding that wave..lovin yiu
