I am lost--help me out(asian woman in australia)

First of all, thanks for those who read it, and especially for those who can give me some suggestions.

I am an Asian woman,came to Australia two years ago, now working as a nurse in australia,I married when I was young and have a 4 year old kid,my kid is living in asia with her dad now.

Over the last years, I always wonder if I should divorce to start to have another family or not, actually, I had a australian boyfriend before,but that did not work out.
I am wondering if the relationship between a westerner and an asian can last long or not, I really don't want to be alone in this world when I am old.

Will a young and handsome western guy really want to start a family with an asian woman who has kid?
or they are flirting with me just wanting to have sex?

Is it normal in a relationship that he hasn't been contacting you for a week? no message, even he was online that he did not say hello to you?
we had known each other for months and had sex.

Thanks for your reading, please reply,I have more story to tell.

 

wow ok, 1st off well ill be honnest here, alotta western guys are very turned on by asain women, so perhaps he was after just sex, but also many many western guys would love & want a relationship with asn asain woman, kid or not
umm not calling you for a week is well it depends on the person, buit that could be a sign of tyrouble certainly so could not replying..but might not be, he maybe busy he may not even be there, dont read too much into that, but dont write it off as nothing either. it may oer may not be an issue
ok on to the ex ...if theres no relationsgip..no love, just the kid...& you wantto move on, then yes u should, buyt maybe not "for"; this giy unless your sure hes the 1

as for this guy u met..id need more info, but dont assume either way..i mean dont assume he wants a relationship just cause u had sex..& dont assume hes ignoring u just cause he hasnt called..

but hun, was the sex one time only &..a week ago?

 

we had sex several times. last time, I dated with him, but now, I don't want to speak to him first.

 

Well then how do you expect to understand his motives if you don't speak to him? Anyway, how long were you dating? And how do you feel about him?

 

well do you plan on going back to asia?
if not i think you should split and try and find happiness close by. as for the child. that;s a bit of a messy situation seeing as you're in a different continent. you could always try and take custody of your child if you really want to have your kid around.
as for this guy not talking to you...you will have to be the one to bring it up. have you IMed him while he was online? with no reply. thats kind of strange if you have been with him for months/..but yeah he could be busy or something but if he keeps ignoring you then i dont know what to say.

but not all guys are looking for just sex. and there is no reason an asian woman and a westerner could not have a long lasting relationship.

 

Yeah, Westerners aren't all that different from us. Our cultures may be different, our skin color may be different, but deep down we all have the capacity to love.

 

Hi ConfusedViolet,

I have to agree with SoaringEagle in saying that a lot of western guys find asian women extremely attractive... so don't give up hope of finding the right guy!

I personally met a beautiful Malaysian lady whilst studying at university. She was around 25 years old and had a 3 year old daughter (whom I met - our paths crossed at the supermarket 20km from my home!). We crossed paths on three or four occasions and struck up an innocent friendship. I had a girlfriend at the time and to cut a long story short... our friendship was very innocent.

I mention this because had I not had a girlfriend at the time I would have had no hesitation in furthering my friendship with this Malaysian lady. I saw her daughter as part of her (she had her personality, looks,... etc) and would have embraced her as my own.

I can only answer for myself... but don't give up!

With regard to your boyfriend (or ex)... friendship is one thing and sex is another! Don't think that sex will keep a guy close. The only guy that you can keep close with sex is a guy who is only after sex... I don't know if I'm clear here? And if sex is what he is after and you don't keep giving it to him he will leave and look somewhere elsewhere. What I am getting at here is that if you enjoyed having sex you won't have any problems if he walks away - because you enjoyed it - no regrets!

I know... I don't think it came out all that well...

Email me if you want to talk:
urbancowboy@email.com

 

Violet - I am a Caucasian guy who has been in a loving relationship with a Chinese-American woman for 2.5 years. We both have grown children, and here in the US, children of a prior marriage is common. In my case my wife died; in hers, she is divorcing a Chinese guy who gave her no emotional support and did not even communicate - it was like two people living in the same house but not having anything to do with each other.

Asian women are attractive to white guys - we like their eyes, their full head of hair, their almost entirely hairless body (my girlfriend has never shaved anywhere), and their personalities. And sexually, Asian women are often great lovers, very willing to experiment, and they seem to love Caucasian cock.

So keep looking - there is an Aussie out there who wants you for mnore than sex. And young guys can be clueless when it comes to meeting a woman's emotional needs, and sometimes they don't call for a week, but that does not mean that you are just a fuck buddy.