What do you think about your sexuality? Open?

My ex-girlfriend was very very self conscious about her body and it was very frustrating. I am a very open person, I love sex and I love the female body in all shapes and forms (except old, that’s quite gross hehe) and I cant understand why she was like that.



I used to try spend as much time as I could (which wasn’t very long) exploring her body with my lips and giving her oral sex but she didn’t like the idea that I was looking at her body and, for want of a better word, her bits. The lights always had to be off and the clothes always had to come straight back on after sex. She even slept with her pyjamas on.



Does anybody else feel the same as I do? I want to meet females who love their body and love to express their sexuality and are not shy about it. Please! Save me from the grasp of peoples insecurity!!!!

 

I know how your ex feels. What with all these magazines and tv programmes with size 0 women and perfect bits splayed everywhere, we can't help it if we feel insecure.

 

I understand where your coming from Fountain, but wouldn’t you feel comfortable with your partner, especially when he says how much he appreciates your body? Im just wondering if anybody feels comfortable with their body?

 

You can call me Nay


I did become more comfortable when I was in a loving relationship, but it did take time. I have this thing where if people compliment me I will snub it because you never know when people are being sincere.

 

Once again, nay ,

Kind of understand where your coming from. But I think that comes down to an honesty issue. I have complimented people before and they have told me to ‘shut up’. That’s the last time I paid them a compliment I tell you!

Personally I am very pro honesty, it’s the way I have been brought up. I absolutely despise lying. Sometimes gets me in trouble because people asking my opinion will hear something they don’t want to. Not that I say it in a malicious way or anything, I just tell them my honest opinion.

It’s a shame you don’t appreciate your body more though. Im sure its very beautiful. Like I said though, I find the womans body in general a beautiful thing.

Call me gilby

 

It is hard to appreciate your body when you don't look as perfect as the CGI women in the media. Also, what you were describing before is very intimate and some women just don't feel comfortable being explored when it's pretty much as unknown to them as it is to you!

 

I Find myself Attractive...To myself...

 

and to the rest of us muddie

 

yup, you certainly do muddy

 

hm i usedta worry around my ex, because i hated my thighs...and one day he rung me to tell me how hot i looked in my leggings when id been doing the trapeze and i was like but my legs are fat and he so didnt think so. i soon realised if he liked all the things i hated about myself i was gonna be ok.

when it came to undressing, its harder, because its like 'do i look like other girls or do i look weird' so much comparison in the female world. cheeky b*stard once told me when i was getting dressed that he could 'see my cellulite'. i laughed because only he in the whole world could have got away with saying that. cheeky sod.

we're still good friends now.

but yes, its hard, women are always comparing themselves.

 

Yeah i totally know what you mean about having to 'conform' and look like what all guys oggle at in magazines. The problem is, reality isnt like that. I hate fakeness. fake boobs, fake face, overloading on make up. its all a cover up for the real beauty that lies behind it. I love naturally beautiful people. and not only that. guys are extremely attracted to self confidence.

oh wow, your from wales Autumn. Shwmae *waves*

 

It depends on the day really. I'm a big girl, but I'm also very curvy. Some days I think I'm the shit and some days I think I look horrible. Normally I have a certain confidence about myself. I like what I see in the mirror!

 

I find all well looked after, healthy human bodies beautiful generally, my own included. Obviously my partners body is the only one im SERIOUSLY attracted to, because we love eachother, but in a non-sexual way yeah were all beauties! I dont listen to all this crap on the tele...people who starve themselves and obsess are ill, people who stuff themselves with junkfood are ill...just sit back from it and relax, do what feels right, and youll look just splendid

And exactly why nakedness should be any worry i dont know. I spend most of my time indoors naked, and would outdoors too if i could!

 

Oh about having to conform...as i say about all conformity...tell them to screw the hell off and be who you are!

 

i used to always be very self-conscious about my appearance. i'm a big girl myself and have always had problems with people ridiculing me because of weight and my appearance. the one place though i always feel confident and secure though is with my husband. he loves big women for a start and makes me feel like i'm the sexiest person alive. even on those days where i just loathe the way i look, he always can make me realize that i am beautiful the way i am even if society wouldn't think so.

 

I dont think i have a perfect figure, my ass is too big, i dont like my belly.. but at the same time im so comy with myself and I love to know I'm being watched by the person I like, love. I guess is about being confident and not wanting to being happy with your imperfections and accepting yourself the way you are...
I love walking around naked after i've had sex.. and fooling around and everything. nudity rocks and it's just makes the process of having sex again a lot shorter

 

"I love the female body in all shapes and forms (except old, that’s quite gross hehe)"
That is freaking hilarious!

I have man boobs, a belly that makes me look about 3-5months pregnant, and skinny little arms. But if people weren't so up tight about it, I'd walk around nude.

♪ Oh this is one fine day to be nude, ♪
♪ Yeah this is one fine day to be nude! ♪
♪ The birds are singing: "Clinton have a wonderful spring", ♪
♪ And people walkin' by can stop and look at my thing. ♪

I'm at the point where I really could not give a fock about my appearance, but I'm sure that'll change once I meet a cool girl who I wanna do. lol

People just need to take it easy, and let the media glide over them instead of being engulfed by it.

 

I don't think anyone should be trying to attain perfection with their looks. After all, what the hell is the point?

I'm sure everyone has bits of themselves that they don't like but you you get what your given and that's it. No point stressing about it.

 

Do you abstain completely from junk food then??

 

Well yeah. Seriously horrible junk food, like macbullshit burgers. Its easy as im vegan, and most junk involves meat or dairy (even if not in an obvious way-choclates have milk, most things have non-vegan e-numbers etc)But note i did say people who stuff themselves with it, meaning in unhealthy amounts...im not critisising people who like to treat themselves with bad stuff every now and then