What do you think about your sexuality? Open?

My ex-girlfriend was very very self conscious about her body and it was very frustrating. I am a very open person, I love sex and I love the female body in all shapes and forms (except old, that’s quite gross :tongue: hehe) and I cant understand why she was like that.



I used to try spend as much time as I could (which wasn’t very long) exploring her body with my lips and giving her oral sex but she didn’t like the idea that I was looking at her body and, for want of a better word, her bits. The lights always had to be off and the clothes always had to come straight back on after sex. She even slept with her pyjamas on.



Does anybody else feel the same as I do? I want to meet females who love their body and love to express their sexuality and are not shy about it. Please! Save me from the grasp of peoples insecurity!!!!



Gilby

 

I understand how you both feel. I used to feel ashamed about my body, but I got out of it by being objective and positive. I knew that there were people out there who were in situations alot worse than mine. I also looked at myself in the mirror and I found positive sides about my body. Like: It might not be like those super models nowadays, but it sure resembles some of the women Michelangelo painted!
Later I haven't bothered being so angry with myself, because nothing good comes from that. So now I accept and appreciate my body as it is... Mostly.... Compliments always help a lot.

I can't really figure out what to write... I don't know if this helped you, or if it answered your question.
I think everyone should learn to appreciate themselves.

 

some peopel just arent ccomfrotable being nude and unless they want to change, thye wont. other than showing that you love her, and not just for her body/sex but personality as well, theres no tmuch you can do. be supportive, its all you can do

 

Hi there guys, and thanks for your replies though I am not here for advice. The purpose of this thread was more for people to talk about their uncomfortable ness with their bodies, people who are comfortable with their bodies and explaining as to why they appreciate their body and things like that.

Not that the person in question is my Ex-Girlfriend so I am not looking for advice myself. I just thought this might be a good place for people to open up about their insecurities and get help (even compliments) from others who are more comfortable.

Thanks again though, and keep posting

Gilby

 

Yeah, ok! Got it

Right now I feel fat because I just ate a chocolate, and I regret...

 

although I am not happy with current body shape, I am totally uninhibited sexually, why, well he is there, he is hard, I might not like my body, but he clearly does, who am I to argue!

I figure that if I have gotten far enough to consider having sex with a guy he has shown enough interest for me to be confident enough enjoy myself, and lets face it, even with the most beautiful body, sex is not the most dignified, elegent process!

 

thats a wonderful way of looking at it bansidhe.

but i do disagree about sex not being elegant. caught in the moment, maybe some candles then sex can be very beautiful and very erotic. god i sounded a little camp then! candles? haha

i have the same sort of view bansidhe. I could do with losing a few pounds (put on after a stupid leg injusry with nothing to spend my money on but take-aways). if someone if with you then that means there is an attraction so be open. on the other hand, i also believe that your body is what it is, and even though its not perfect i think you should love it because its yours. If you are comfortable with your own body then people are more likely to see the beauty in it.

its not all about the way your body looks, more about the feel of it, and the feel of another naked body against your own.

G

 

Thats exactly how my girlfriend is, too. For some reason, she's embarassed by the way she looks. I dfon't understand it myself...

 

there is so much focus on physical looks these days in every area of life, that its hard not to get a little obsessed, we are so bombarded with images of what is percieved to be perfection that a lot of people, and its not just women, feel thoroughly unattractive!

 

i totally understand and feel the same way you do. i am a bisexual hippie chick and i love to express my sexuality and body. i am in a deep relationship with my boyfriend and we are completely open and happy about it. we havent yet been in an orgy or threesome, but we are real excited to do so. we also want to tape ourselves and have sex in front of people. i am totally okay with him having sex with other women while i'm in on it too, and it really turns me on. we are both really into free love. i made out with a chick in front of him and he had no problem with it. we think being open and sexually trustworthy with each other like this is very healthy for our relationship.

 

self respect, and self confidence is not something you are born with. my family taught me that everyone is physically different and that it is what 's on the inside that counts. i am a heavy girl and anyone who knows me will say the same thing, i carry myself withthe cnfidence of a supermodel. i have never had a problem getiing any man i have ever wanted or lusted after. people tend to lose their self confidence and self esteem when someone else has told them 'they are ugly or fat or too skinny" someone may have pounded into her head that she was ugly. she needs reassurance and don't pressure her she'll crawl deeper in the self loathing stage be open and honest and tell her that she is beautiful even if you have to say it a million times

 

I have problems on and off with being unsatisfied with my body, by on and off I mean depending on the hour. It never really goes away, but I have learned that when someone is loving me, it is ok to leave my issues at the door and let myself feel sexy!
~peace

 

My peers used to make fun of me for being too skinny. I was 107 lbs my senior year in high school. I had lung surgeries and I lost a-lot, but I wa already super skinny. Of course now I have gained over 50 pounds in 8 years and am healthy as an ox now. It was tough to be skinny as well as too fat Im sure. You just dont hear about it as much.

 

I know exactly what you are talking about my friend cos I was also vey fat because of a congenital poblem and while nobody used to rib me to my face, you become the butt of all that backbiting jokes..hell anyway I am so much more glad to have overcome all that..I lost weight from 350lbs to 180lbs and now am back to 220 with an entirely different kinda build!! I am a heavyweight pugilist now..
For girls it is more pronounced a problem cos they are so sensitive about physical appearances especially when there is an emotional attachment involved. I would suggest the age old technique of harmless compliments that ought to seem natural and hence shud b subtle and must come out of the blue to make her pleasantly surprised..I have found that to work everytime unless there is a far more severe situation involved.