Yet Another Coming Out Thread

Hey!

I know these can get tedious, but I felt I needed to vent all my thoughts somewhere, so might as well be here, right?

Basically, I came out to my parents about 4 weeks ago. I had decided that it was a good time as I was in uni and between the fateful day and the end of term was a good 2 weeks in which we could be kind of apart and they could think and talk about it. Basically, it came as a surprise to them (I am not "camp" or "stereotypically gay", whatever that means). My dad got hit hardest, as usual, I guess. However, they both said they still love me, yet my dad asked about psychiatrists and that to "help" me, which I, of course, rejected outright.

Basically, later on he talked about the whole "continuation of the family line" (we are Eastern European, so he has this conservative view of family life - especially now that my older male first cousin has severed links with the family, and my younger male first cousin got diagnosed with autism; so they see me as the only means to perpetuate the extended family name) and how if I found the inner reserves may be I could push it down or repress it. I am a stubborn kind of person, but he was kind of pleading, so I said something non-commital, just to pacify him.

My mum has acted quite relaxed about it, and we spend plenty of time together now in the holidays. My dad is always travelling for work, so I see less of him, but I can feel that he is definately not OK with it, although I don't doubt that he still loves me.

Coming out to friends was fine and easy. I thought that coming out to my parents would make me much happier and kind of at ease with myself. Now there is this great uncertainty hanging over me - as the whole thing is not at the extreme of "Yeah, it's disgusting blah blah": at least with that I would know where I stood vis a vis my dad. So basically, now I feel more depressed than I have ever been.

Meh, I guess it is just one of those days, right?

 

Oh dear.

Good thing you came out to your parents xD I dont think that'll ever be possible to do, in my case >.> Now, ive told my mom but...Well, my dad is quite the nut, to put it simply.

Hehe.

Anyway.

Stop being depressed Go eat a...grapefruit New wonder cure for all sorrow induced indispositions! Eh...Well, as you said, your parents (your dad, specificly) hasnt stopped loving you. Im sure he'll be at ease with the fact that youre gay soon enough.

(Im not good with encouragement >.>)