Hi to all and question about coming out

Hello to all.

I was just searching through the net and I found this forum which I found very supportive, that is why I decided to post.
I'm originally from Latin America but at present I'm living in England and am 'bout to go back, the question is I'm not out yet (even though I'm 30!) because our society is a very 'macho' society. When I go back, I would like to come out to my mom, however, I really don't know how to tackle the situation, she's 61, she's very conservative and she has some health issues (heart problems), I really want to tell her because she's my only family but don't want to cause her any trouble. I don't know if this makes sense. Any advice?

 

All you can do is tell the truth. You are not responsible for her reaction. That is all about her. However, you can color it by the way you tell her. If you are upset and crying, chances are she will react in kind. The one thing in your post that you might start out with is telling her that you struggled with how you would tell her and want her to know that you thought long and hard about it. She is important to you and you want her to remain a central part of your life. This is who you are for the past thirty years and it is just a small piece of information that she is getting that changes nothing about your relationship with her. And on and on....