I just came out to my sister, and I plan to officially come out after high school. So, being new to this whole bi thing, I just wanna ask: Is it uncommon to find other bi/gay people who are interested in a platonic (or mostly platonic) relationship? Having been raised as christian, I'm just not comfortable with the thought of sexual relationships with the same sex. Is it possible to find these people?
yes of course it is just because we're gay it doesn't mean we'll just be jumping into bed with each other, and you find us in every normal way, at work, in a pub, in a shop, just because we're attracted to the same sex doesn't make us that much different, we won't have markers on us, so you'll just have to get to know people S
I know many same sex couples who appear to have a better grasp on the sexual aspect of a reletionship than most of the hetero people I know. In fact , im my little circle which has an even mixture of gays and straights , the hetero's date more , have random sex more , and have more choas going on in their lives than my gay friends , many of whom are actually celibate. Im not sure why its this way unless its because the gays dont have the same freedoms in society that the heteros do , so they have to be more discreet ....I really havent a clue.
Does this mean that I should take down my big neon sign that sais "I"M BI" in giant flashing letters? I was trying to be discreet after all.:jester:
I think, my friend, that by coming here you've already found such people, no ? People are just people, and you'll find a whol load of us don't identify ourselves by our sexuality as such - we blether on about the telly, the weather and the deranged half-wits that run our countries well before we get into discussions about who we have sex with. As, in time, will you. Anyway - congrats on coming out yourself. Now, relax and enjoy life.
yup. we're everywhere. we're not slobbering, over-sexed nymphos. well, some are, but that's just a phase, usually.
I would never tell people that I am gay or bi unless I plan to have sex with them. You are always better off keeping your mouth shut. Never come out to anybody.
Don't worry about "coming out" right now. Concentrate on making friends. Some friends after a long period of friendship become more than friends and then you enter the whole wonderful world of real intimacy. Let it happen naturally; you won't need a "manual" of instruction. You are right in not rushing into the physical side of sexual relations. The brain is a powerful sexual organ and a very proper monitor for one's emotional urges. Take it easy.
