boyfriend doesn't appreciate me anymore :(

I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 20, we are in university together and have been together for 9 months now!

Its been an amazing nine months mostly but past month or more we just constantly argue, we more or less live with each other and are constantly in each others faces. But thats cos there's not much else to do, we are too poor to go out most of the time.

Its just he keeps getting snappy and short temprered with me alot of the time, he moans we are with each other too much and it makes me feel really shitty then cos I feel I'm getting on his nerves. I was really ill the other day with vomit and diarrrhoea (sorry bout details!) and he was in a right grump, and made me feel bad for being ill, I think he thought I was putting it on! He only seems to cuddle up to me when he wants sex but then I dont feel appreciated enough to want to have it.............hmm I know this doesnt sound like a major problem but a bit more appreciation really wouldnt go amiss!

 

Talk to him about it...

Communication is key.

 

communication yes but also get out go do things together seperate with others

start trying to have some fun together again
what do u like doing together theres lotsa shit u can do that dont require $
& talk a bit talk about what u both need to feel apreciated
he may not feel it either if you push him away too
try to just spend more time apreciating eachother & less time criticizing
i mean if that is what your doing

 

thanks for reply, ye I do talk to him about it! thats the problem, I tell him everything, but yes I think we do need to go out more and do seperate things together, that probably is the main factot

 

plenty to do for free. Besides plane tickets, I rarely spend.

 

Go away for a few days if you can, go out without him, have fun, find a new hobby and please YOURSELF. He'll probably start being nice once he realises you don't need him to be happy...hopefully! Good Luck.

 

You can't do anything except try to work out each other's faults.

He needs to have more compassion. You need to get out and do more yourself.

If not, it is doomed.

 

Why are you dating him?

 

I'd leave him...

I don't care if he feels like he's seeing you too much or w/e his problem is..
no one deserves to feel unappreciated...you can do better!
you shouldn't ever feel bad for being sick..he should be there comforting you!

 

Just like hook up with another guy and see what happens after that. I know this sounds bad but you should make your boyfriend jealous so then he feels lucky to have you.

 

OIf course he doesnet. Do you jerk him off on your face?? Do you let him piss on you? Do you watch porno with him while he fingers you? nO fKin wonder. Its always the guys fault with you little sluts.

 

If that's not immature, I don't know what is.

 

That might work in the short term but it would make the relationship much worse in the long run. If your relationship has progressed to this in only 8 months then you should probably just go. It is not going to improve.

 

I obviously know it's not the mature thing, but this person sounded desperate.

If someone doesn't value your worth, then find someone who will. They are out there!

 

I love him so much and dont plan to be with anyone else, I know he loves me too, just he is taking me for granted at the moment..... we are stuck in a little tiny flat all day long and rarely go out, we dont even have a living room! But he is just about to start a new job and Im going to look for one tomorrow, so hopefully things are going to get better!

 

Your first post made it sound like you already have the answer: spend time apart! It's not healthy for people to be in eachother's faces all day, everyday. Once you're not together every waking moment, both of you will come to better appreciate the time you have together.

 

if he being a rude, disrespectful faggot, smack him in the mouth and give him no sex, and watch him change his tune then!

 

Lol!!

 

Does he have any guy friends? Guy hobbies? Take a day off and go with the girls and let him hang with the guys. I have gone and some days still go through this. My guy even said the whole "we spend too much time together" line, and I know how it feels, you feel hurt, I felt really bad considering I work 2 weeks straight then get 2 days off then do it over again while he just stays home. But like stated before communication is key. I talked to my man about it and he is now looking for a job and we try to get out more now to have fun instead of staying at home all the time. Some of the things we do is simply rent movies instead of getting them, going out for icecream, and sometimes its just good to get outside. Best of luck to you though I hope everything works out in the long run.

 

I lived for a month in a two-room apartment with my best friend and we HATED each other. Almost every day culminated in us yelling at each other, me crying, and him locking himself in his bedroom.
When I moved out, we became best of friends again.

I know you said your money was tight, but if possible ... move out. Find a girl-friend or someone to crash with, even just a few nights a week. Put a little distance between the two of you ... but not SO much distance that he blows you off completely. That happy medium is up to the two of you.

Best of luck ... it can be very tough, I know.

PS: In case you'd not already struck out the idea, do not hook up with someone else just to inspire jealousy. Also don't necessarily with-hold sex, but make yourself busy with other things until he shapes up. ("Oh, I can't tonight, I am going out with the girls")