Somebody please please please help me! I have a son who will be 3 in november and he still doesn't sleep all night in his own bed. on average i get 3 hours a sleep each and every night. that adds up. i can't take it anymore. if your a parent then you knowwhati 'm talkingabout. i've tried letting him cry himself to sleep, doesn't work, i've rocked him, i've laid down with him, i get up 3-6 times a night with him. he's has a set bedtime and he knows that, we do the same routine every damn night. we've got nightlights. he's got his own bed nd his own room. if he doesn't wake up screaming, he comes and crawls in bed with myself and my husband. theres not enough room. the docotors are stupid they have nothing that helps. I hve tried everything possible, all i want is for him to sleep in his own room all night. at least for 6 hours straight. I'm at my wits end, if anybody has any advice, any techniques, anything at all, please let me know i'd greatly greatly greatly appreciate it.
Stop dealing with him at night, your just enabling him and allowing the problem to continue. If he crawls in your bed, immediately put him back in his bed, if you are CONSISTENT it will work....eventually.
I'm sorry, not getting enough sleep can really turn you into a wreck! Is there any chance you could get someone to look after him for one night,like a family member so you could get one good nights sleep? I don't really know what you could do, but i think dudenamedrob has a good point. Maybe check out the parenting forum here for more help http://www.hipforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=62 Good luck.
i would check out the nighttime board at mothering.com/discussions they should be able to give you some advice
Ya mothering.com rocks! btw I am a stay at home father of 2 young girls.....just so you know i'm not some blowhard dude putting in my 2cents without ever having rubbed em together love and light!
Try running around with him all day,try and let him use up all that energy in the day so he'll be tired by nightime and if you are don't give him any fizzy drinks in the evening .
My brother slept in my parents' room until he was 10... It always annoyed me but my parents didn't really mind?
When my oldest daughter was his age she was doing the same thing, making our life a living hell. If she couldn't get in our bedroom, she would get into the fridge and dump everything on the floor. I had reached the end of the rope, I went to the hardware store and got a door hook and basically locked her in her room. Mom and Dad came for a visit and I thought I was going to get my ass chewed, but NO, mom told me they had to do the same thing with me.. She also said she got me a harness and clipped a led to the clothes-line so I wouldn't take off....You got to do what you got to do.....
Does he nap during the day? Do you lay down with him at bedtime? He seems to have some anxiety about sleeping alone. I let my daughters sleep with me if they get scared at night-but I have a king size bed, so it's no big deal. I'm a huge advocate of co-sleeping, it has helped me tremendously especially when my girls were nursing.
There is a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantly which may help. He may have Night Terrors or be one of those kids with very short sleep cycles. Have you tried having him sleep in a sleeping bag on your floor? He may be lonely at night. Some kids take longer to sleep alone than others. Alaskan, As for locking doors and tying children to beds, these are both against the law. If Child Protective Services walks into a house and sees a child's bedroom with a lock on the outside, the child usually is taken into foster care. (And even if CPS never comes in, if, God forbid, there were a fire.....) If the child is TIED, chances will be very slight you will EVER get that child back. We ARE talking about a human being here, not a wild animal!!!! Children respond to LOVE AND CONSISTANCY, But often you have to work with what the child gives you. A child who is afraid at night is not faking it, they NEED you. Try the sleeping bag, or put a little bed in your room. Has the child ever had a trauma or separation from you? If so, you want to be even more careful with how you handle this. Traumatized children often need even MORE love at night than during the day. Good luck.
Maggie: I never said anything about tying a child to a bed. Where did you get that ? My mom cliped me to the clothes line so I wouldn't take off and run out into the street. Yes, I hooked my daughters door, it was 34 years ago. When she couldn't get out and tear the house apart she went back to bed and sleep.
I looked at your age after I posted. People did other things years ago. Your mama clipped you to a clothes line? I'm sorry. Man, that sucks. There was really little regard for children as humans in the first part of our century. I'm glad we know more now, and that the law is at least somewhat involved. Never the less, in this day and age, putting a lock on a child's door is still something CPS would take a child away for. When my kids got "out of hand" I held them in my arms, knowing they needed love the most, when they appeared the least "lovable." Blessings to you and yours.
I saw this on some episode of super nanny: When your child gets out of bed, get up and put him in his own bed. Tell him that you love him and he'll be safe by himself. He'll probably get up a bunch of times during the night. It'll probably be a pain for a while, but after some time of being constantly put back, he'll learn. Hopefully something like this will work for you and you can get some rest. Peace.
IMHO, supernanny stinks. Any one who says a breastfeeding child looks like an animal hanging off her mother gets a big fat zero in my book.
Have you tried moving his bed into your room? It might not be ideal for what YOU want, but it will probably make your child feel more secure and loved and everyone would sleep better.
Well, he's only two. Maybe he's just not comfortable sleeping away from you guys. I had my own room when I was that age, but I also literally lived about 5 feet from my older brothers and 5 more feet from my parents. Yeah, it was a helluva tiny house. Moving the bed into your room might BE a good idea, like sugrmag said. That, or if you can get a rollaway bed or a cot or something, so if he does have bad nights, he knows he has a place to go to, and once he's ready sleep on his own, he can do that.
my little bro has a friend who literally slept with his parents until he was 12. He would not spend the night at other kids houses, he would call his parents when it was time to bed crying. He finally just grew out of it. Now he is 17, he is a football player, wrestler, and has a girlfriend. Weird how people change.
