What is wrong with me?

I am 17 years old. I had my first orgasm when I was 14 years old without any form of physical stimulation. I was just sitting there one night...so to speak. & it just happened. I had never masturbated until after this happened...as I didn't know why I would so such a thing until I actually had my first orgasm. I wanted to acheive that feeling again. After a few years, I have realized that I very rarely am able to attain a good orgasm. A little over half the time, they are very weak. It barely feels like they are there at all. Usually the 'build up' feels really,really nice...but when I actually have an orgasm it is like nothing happened. It is very disappointing. I don't know why this is happening to me I have had several really nice orgasms in my life but usually they just aren't nice. I have to wait longer than a week in between self pleasuring in order just to acheive a somewhat decent orgasm. Is this normal? I get rather sad when I hear about other women who can have sex/masturbate several times a day or even twice a day and still manage to acheive a mindblowing orgasm every time. Is there something wrong with me?

 

hey at least you have them!

 

you both need to come on over..heehee

but i dont think theres a thing wrong really
many women just have trouble reaching orgasm at all,

 

aye, the build up is always really exciting, but the orgasm is a bit of an ati-climax

 

I just wish I could have good ones more often...rather than a few times a year or so. It is the exact reason why I have never been able to have sex with anyone. Not that I don't want to, but I'm afraid they will hate me if I have the inability to enjoy the experience with them. I've had several people offer, but I always refuse. I'm going to die a virgin

 

Dont be afraid to try having sex after all there is a big differance between masturbation and a good fuck

 

one girl i was with said she only got off good when she was using a vibrator. It didnt matter who she was with or what they did, when it was up to someone else she could finish so to speak.

Another only got off to being eaten out. We had great sex and she really enjoyed it, but always needed me to go down to finish her off.

Everyone is different, and maybe you havnt found out what your magic spot is yet. You should try having sex and receiving oral (if your ready, and only then) to see if that helps. It may be that you cant get yourself off but being with someone else could get you that mind blowing orgasm you yearn.

 

most of it is probably mental. you might just be thinking about it too much. just relax and enjoy

 

Different people orgasm differently... I've done the same thing plenty of times.. but as long as it's not every time I wouldnt worry about it. Maybe you should try something diiffernt... it could just be the mononity of doing the same thing over and over that kinda kills it.

 

AutumsMoonchild - only 25-30% of women can have orgasms during intercourse alone and another 20-25% can have them with clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The other half of women can only orgasm by masturbation, or never or seldom orgasm (15-20% or so).

But you can determine what is best for you and go for it.

 

Maybe just check out on the interweb on how to have better orgasms. Your situation sounds kinda unfortunate.

Man I'm so glad I'm gay - most dudes don't have these kinds of orgasm issues