OK, so today I came out to two of my most conservative, Christian friends after already having told another girl before. It was very scary, but in the end I was just like "Hey, guess what? I'm gay." Quite painless, really. One of them just said "Oh," and seemed quite cool with it. The other was silent for a long time, then asked me "How do you know that?" I thought this was a bit of a stupid question, so I told her so and we left it at that. Later that day though she asked again, saying that "Wouldn't something have to trigger it for you to know?" I accept that I am young to know (15) and that it may be just a phase I'm going through, but it's something I have known for all my life, just without being fully aware of it. For example, when I was younger (think around 10 or 11) I always thought that girls were far nicer looking, and I'd obsess over pretty girls for hours, but I didn't actually recognise it as having a crush. Even when I was really little I'd be the only one not to have a husband in our games and to be a single mother when we were playing 'families', and as I got older I was the only person not to have celebrity crushes. As I got older I started to swing more towards bi, but still more strongly attracted to girls. My question is, I've never been out with anyone, or even had a proper crush on a 'real' person, ie someone I know and not in a magazine or on TV etc. So how the hell can I explain to her that I do know, and it's not just a short phase or something to get attention? I can't explain to her all of the things that I've just said, because she comes from a VERY conservative background and just wouldn't accept that it's possible to have a crush below the age of about 14, she'd think I was some kind of pervert. I hope this all makes sense, I had a late night last night and I need to go to bed
Well...I dont see why she'd think there'd be some profound event signifying your attraction to the same sex >.> Lol. It's not like a stone which shifts into place little by little, over time...at least, thats what I think. Being gay isnt some special sub-division of the humin...subsistence It's not like youve got a different brain structure which alters your view of gender in general. Meh >.< Im having quite a tough time explaining this. Well, anyway...Age really has nothing to do with it. Just as you said about yourself, i've always had less interest in the opposite sex...Though, I hadnt really recognized the fact that im bi (gay, you could say >.> I fancy guys more...Lol) until 6th grade maybe (im 14 now...woot. Not much time has passed, lol)...And that could be considered a young age to know, I guess. Though, as I said, age determines nothing, I think. Well...Just tell your friend that love is love, and love is free xD As the universe, no boundries.
Aww, you wrote your first post on my thread - I'm honoured Naw, seriously, thanks for the advice. I don't have much of a problem with it myself, well I don't have a problem with it at all actually. But I'm kind of scared to be alone with her, because she keeps asking me really awkward questions like if I fancy other x girl in my class and stuff. The thing is, she told me it didn't affect how much she liked me, but that's not the point - it affects how much I like HER. Well, it doesn't bther me that much - she was never my BEST friend or anything like that, so...
There is no age limit to when you can determine if your are gay. I was 19 when I my brain figured it out. But looking back, I can see all kinds of signs before hand. I would have probably have known sooner, but at that time (God I sound old) there wasn't much of anything in the media about gay people. It makes a lot of sense that now people know sooner in life. It might be hard to explain to others what your heart feels. A lot of times people want concrete evidence when it's something they don't understand. You both sound like you are following what your heart feels. When you do that you are on the right track.
xD Well...I'd tell her to quit with the strange questions if I were you, lol. If you two drift apart, it's your choice whether or not you want to reconnect with her. If you do lose her friendship, for whatever reason, and it doesnt have any profound effects on your general being (like...if you plan sabotaging the worlds grapefruit production >.>)...then dont bother any more with it. I hope that doesnt sound coldhearted, lol.
