Relationships & Friendships?

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Heh heh, she sounds even more cynical than I am...
My guess is she was hurt at some point in her life and it's made it difficult for her to trust anyone. Her seemingly pessimistic outlook on life only magnifies this mistrust, turning her into a paranoid and unemotional person who attempts to justify her personal philosophy through rational discourse with others.

 

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yikes
ok
hmm
shes a mess
thats ok in itself but
what the hell are u doing?
wanting a relationsyip with her why?
sex?

shes not aboe to understand the concept of relationships
i can already tell you, this girls been through some shit
that memmory loss hides severe trauma
that effects how she relateds to everyone
when are the memmory loss centetred around what ages
she was young rihht?
she will nevrer trust
expecialy if u push push push

plus shes 1 of those ppl every1 wants a relationshoip with i bet too,
shes probly got a dozen guys begging for a relkationship
she will noyt trust any

but... a freind...that she can trust


if u hope to ever have a relationship..drop the act... drop pushing for anything
& care about hrer as a freind
a freind who helps heal that trauma not further wedge a gap between her and all men


i can tell u what happened to her was severe...
be a freind

friendships better
its what she needs

pm me her myspace tho i think i may knoeww her
& if its her i can give u lots more insite.. if not can maybe get asfeel & aty least be another freind to her thats what she needs

vcant you hear her begging ??

 

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ok well shes been hurt shes young masybe she has mistreated pll the way shes been mistreatted i think the guy shes committing to is well a occassional lover ast best someoner to make her feel good wiothout hassles..& your like time consumming i want a relationship i want answers now now now why oh why oh why cant we be....
its ok its understandable but what she wanted was a freind.. maybe a freind with benifits...hey that camn become more

but damn your pushing her away by pushing the issue too much
you probly coulda been wityh her if u accepted what is & noyt try to make it what u want

every relationship has alittle unconventualirty since each persons digfferent & u hafta accept them flaws & all

 

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u may want to look into posts by this person: http://www.hipforums.com/forums/member.php?u=41127 not that theyre the exact same mindset but what you said your gf said reminds me of stuff by the psoter.

anwya. sounds liek she wants a poly or open relationship. she wants all the benfits of a relationship adn none of the restrictions taht are typicallyplaced on it, like monogamy or accountability or obligation. it sounds very selfish to me. i mean, theres nothing worng with poly or open but it sounds like its all coming form a very self ecentered mindset

 

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Shit man, sounds like she's tearing your emotional well-being apart, piece by piece. If I was in that situation... Well, let's just say I wouldn't let myself end up in that situation in the first place.

You have the power to end this situation, but do you have the will?

 

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damn ummmmmmmmmmmmm
really tough 1
1 shes way screwed up
2 she may need a freind but not sure shes acting in ways desserving of 1
althouhgh if there is severe trauma (molerstation or rape) her sadistic tendencies may be understandable im thinking shes been brutalized
and if thsatds the case then yes try to be a freind if u can
but
dont be abused yourself
dude u do not want anything more then freinds with her
at least noty till she heals from these issues
but exploring the issues & causes as freinds can be a bonding experirence as well, & lead to who knows..real trust & love (maybe freinds maybe not) but for now u have just 1 choice

freinds only...or nothing

no other choice is sane for you

 

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fakings dumb talk to her
wether u decide to be friends or just not talk
i actualy would like to talk to her cause im thinking the memmory disorder is only partuial & under the right circumstances maybe able to figure out why shes like this
but i can tell u right off, its more then harrassment
she was young;..
12 or younger
and someone she trusted ..should have been able to trust without question...really screwed up her world & lerft that blank spot
she has no idea why shes doing these thijngs cause shes not in toucvh with what happened

she cannot deal with trust;.... not now..
sjhe needs either some good therapy..or...a ton of gentle understanding
with absolutely no p;ushing for anything beyond a freind to talk to

she cant have a healthy relationship now
but
abandanning hope for that & caring as a freind to help her work througyh things in the hope that someday she can have 1 with someone (u or anyone) & selflessly caring moere about hjer healling & recoveringthe ability to be in a healthy relationship might never ever ever get u into 1 with her..u may end up helping her to meet mr right or whatever..but
the omportant thing is..whoever ends up with her can have a healthy relationsyip
you included if thats what fate offers...
healling the ability to love will go a long way towards finding love if theres really love there..
but without healling thsat your only gonna torture eachother

& i know u feel like your hurt by this but she is too, & feels like she has to do it to protect herself\

put yourself in her showes

she was molested or raped..by a close freind even m,aybe a family member or something...i can see it clearly...
shes hurt bad..
trust...relationship... these thinbgs are alien to her
to have them u need to make her believe in them
only way to is to give up on them & care more about her & her state of being then yoyur own needs for trust loyalty relationship ..expect nothing in return except to hope u help heal her
\
shes a mess
and for good reason

 

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its 4 am./// maybe drop ut til;ll tomorp gnite

ooopsds now its 5
id be annotesd too

gluck

 

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even most sadists learn to restrict that sadism to consensual sexual games. they dont destroy a persons soul, they limit it to sex and even then there's a safe wrod to end it all.

shes needs a therapist. she wants a fuck buddy. are you willing to be a fuck buddy is the real question. i dunno, id pull away slowly in the relationships sense whie suggesting therapy for her... ie only engage in oral sex, then just making out and cuddling and such. not a swift break, not enough to ruin the friendship, but... thats certainly no guarantee that itd work

 

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do u know for a fact thast she had sex with her ex?
im thinking that the before isrefferingto the abuse