Yeah so anorgasmia is that trait found in some females that makes it intensly hard for them to orgasm. To cause an orgasm requires very precise physical and mental scenarios to finally release. However...it is RARELY found in males...I'm thinking I may be an unfortunate. Basically I can go for hours none stop with no promise of my finishing, but when I do find just the right way to do it it's 5 minutes easy. Also masturbating gets me there quick since I'm in full control but the orgasm is bad. So I was wondering is there any tricks to achieving the male orgasm? Any ways I can battle this? I've tried not orgasming for a few days and it helps a little but my sex drive is so bad I can't make it more than two days before It starts affectin everyday life. I've even gone so far as to try anal for prostate stimulation, but all that seems to do is make the orgasm better, not really finish me quicker. To help those understand the feeling it feels like your about to cum...but it never does. So I get arroused perfectly fine I just cant get over that last hurdle. But yeah my main concern is that it's nearly impossible to come in a condom (I can't find Magnum thins...so unfair) and I think my partners are getting discouraged that the only way I can finish is by an enduring handjob/blowjob.
my boyfriend has this EXACT problem. it's annoying, really annoying. same thing, he can't cum with a condom on at all, so we basically deal with it by having sex until I'm done, then he gets himself off with me kissing and touching him. this is the only thing that works, and although it sucks, there doesn't really seem to be any better way. sorry I couldn't really help you, just wanted to let you know that there are other people that have the same problem.
stop masturbating in your spare time. Trust me, I never came from intercourse until recently, when I decided to not masturbate for a week. I had vaginal intercourse with my gf doggy style, and I could barely contain it. It was the best feeling I ever had. No masturbation for a week, then have sex, and see if you are still complaining about not having an orgasm. Trust me. Orgasm from vaginal sex is one of the best feelings. Just stop wacking it.
Huh kinda figured that was the main issue. Unforunately since a past girlfriend I start to go mental if I hold out for more than 72 hours. Kinda hopin that maybe there was some crazy tantra technique rather than guessing when I'm going to have sex and saving up.
It's actually not that hard. All you have to do is minimize the time when you are by yourself with nothing to do. Try to spend more time with your gf, even if your not going to have sex. You will be more touchy feely with her because you are so freakin horny, and she will appreciate that. Maybe a blowjob can help with the tension if she is generous enough. Hang out with your buddies. play video games or basketball or something. Get a gym membership, and start a workout program. Help mom and dad around the house if you still live at home. Do anything that will keep your hands off it. Do anything that will keep your girlfriends hands, mouth, pussy, and ass... on it. Self love is a healthy practice, but like anything, it can be abused. So the point is to gather up all the time you have to yourself with nothing to do besides jerking off, and start doing constructive things with it. It will keep your penis sensitive enough to respond to the soft, warm, wet, tight environment that the vagina has to offer. Mmmmm, damn I can go for some pussy right about now.
Oh, you've got multiple partners, and don't have sex consistently. Well that makes things way more complicated. Don't want to ditch the condom, because the results could be disastrous.
Well I have this weird issue where I wont have any sex for a month or two and out of no where I'll be blind sided with a 1-3 week span of numerous partners and amazing encounters. So predicting when to save and when not to is risky cuz i dont wanna over stock and start to go insane over nothing...because failed attempts can become maddening where they would've just been casual let downs. But yeah my EX gf and me did it over 200 times in a 3 month period in 4 hour intervals...do the math. So even though its been over 2 years...I haven't been able to come down from the frequent need to release. I'm practically addicted to orgasming...I like to hold it in (cuz it feels better and makes me bigger) but I'm so trained I dont have the will power. I mean its even intergrated itself into a mild case of OCD when it comes to sleep rituals. I can't fall asleep until it happens or it bothers me to death...horny or not. They have self restraint pills out there?
Sounds like you have a healthy sex drive. Don't take any pills to kill that, you might regret it later down the road. You don't seem to have a problem attracting women, so my advice would be, continue what you are doing. Masturbation is healthy. Keep wearing condoms for as long as you are having multiple partners, and when that special girl comes around, you know the one you want to date exclusively, well.. problem solved.
Well at least now I know that I have a solution for when I expect sex to happen. Till then I guess I can go with stroking my ego on the whole "6 hours of sex" angle. Kinda worries me though. I feel maybe my sex drive is way over a normal males. I would never be able to survive in a place such as a military camp or somethin where you dont have lengths of privacy. I really feel handicapped by my constant hormones.
Fanboy - At 19 you are at the height of your sex drive - it is all downhill from here. Women peak at 40 - it's not fair. But don't fret - for you later on there is viagra, or what exists in 30 years when you may need it. Try some new techniques for masturbation or sex - check out "Advanced masturbation" or Jackinworld for the former, and there are many books dealing with sex positions. There is even a calendar showing a new position for every day of the year -"wheelbarrow", for instance. Try some new lubes, such as olive oil or baby oil or talcum powder for masturbation, and stay well lubed during intercourse. And remember, you screw with your brain not your penis, so get your mind in the right place and you will cum. You are trying too hard, thinking too much about trying to cum, so you don't.
Thanks for mentioning that site. It has a lot of great stuff. It also lead me to another great site: clitical.com
Fanboy, As a dominant female, I have seen that men sometimes *need* chastity. There are devices that you can buy for such a purpose- (CB3000 and the like) to lock you up. And then you give the key to someone else to hold for a pre-determined length of time. The question is, who? And also, how do you deal in the meanwhile? You might want to try turning this into a game for yourself. Try to hook up with a domme to enfore chastity on you. It can be a very sexy game of power exchange and solve you problem at the same time. You may very well findn that there are other ways for you to achieve the mental release you so need- with out actual orgasm. That's why I love d/s so. It's mostly the mind. Try a free site like collarme to find someone who would understand your issue. Just a thought.
Fanboy, As a dominant female, I have seen that men sometimes *need* chastity. There are devices that you can buy for such a purpose- (CB3000 and the like) to lock you up. And then you give the key to someone else to hold for a pre-determined length of time. The question is, who? And also, how do you deal in the meanwhile? You might want to try turning this into a game for yourself. Try to hook up with a domme to enfore chastity on you. It can be a very sexy game of power exchange and solve you problem at the same time. You may very well findn that there are other ways for you to achieve the mental release you so need- with out actual orgasm. That's why I love d/s so. It's mostly the mind. Try a free site like collarme to find someone who would understand your issue. Just a thought.
