here's the deal: i'm bisexual, and i'm in a fantastic, long-time relationship with my best guy friend. only thing is, i've been thinking recently that i really would like to have a relationship with a cool, laid-back girl, too. my love says he's all for it, but i don't know. i'm worried that one or both of my partners will become jealous. any advice?
good lord, i was just checking out your gallery, and looking the way you do, you should be able to do any damn thing you want! :afro: although if you were mine, honestly i might get a little jealous, but i'd quickly get over watching you with a chick almost as hot as you.
well of course, everyone wants the best of both worlds its just a matter of how that will affect people around you. your bf may be cool with it now, but what if hes not in the future? you may have to make a choice between the two, which will put you in an odd position.
i dont know what to tell you out of haveing almost no experiance in this department, but i think i would just ask both of them what they think about it, and after taking those into consideration, go from there.
how would u feel about him having another partner? male or female, would it bother you? i mean, if u have the rihgt to be fuckign someone else, hell probaly ask for it down the road. if you can both handle being poly or open thats great bu tits a tough thign to keep from going all to hel
yeah, that's what i worry about. i love him and know he loves me as much, but at this point i wouldn't want to see him do anything with another girl. he's straight so it's kind of different in that regard... you know? i know he wouldn't want me with another guy, but he doesn't mind the idea of another girl. he actually encourages it, for obvious reasons. i'm not as worried about him, but i know how jealous girls can get, even the most laid-back ones....
if it's meant to happen the right chick will come along......if you go out "searching", your motive might be in the wrong place and may generate some funky karma an excellent idea in theory, but yeah, the reality of it might be too much for your man (or the chick involved) .....hand the whole thing over to the universe and see what opportunities might present themselves - that way you're assured that whenever it happens, the time was right for it power to you, baby - good luck!
Hmmm, life can change as quick as the turn of a knife. You need to be sure before you do anything too extreme. coz there is no going back.....
zilla, take a look at the magazine Loving More, and their website. Polyamory is defiinitely an option for you. There are couple of good websites on polyamory. Actually, I would dearly love to be in a relationship with a woman like you. Not to be with your girl too, but to share life with such an open-minded and sensual woman. This ain't a line, or a pass at you, it's just the truth, and I need to share it with like minded friends. There is a book, The Ethical Slut, written by Dossie Eaton, that is supposed to be a great read. The Monogamy Myth, another book, also comes to mind.
i've heard about The Ethical Slut before, and i'm thinking it's about time to give it a read. it's nice meeting people who understand where i'm coming from... some of the more conservative-minded people i know can't comprehend why anyone would want to have polyamorous relationships. i really appreciate all the advice, guys. and, uh, the boob compliments. really appreciate it.
I think you have gotten some good insite from the other members. Here is a different point of view (to cover all the bases). You dont mention whether your guy will be involved with your new relationship or not, so the advice might be very different if that were stated. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married 4. We have an open relationship. Neither of us are BI, but we deal with the same emotions that you will have to consider. We are also not swingers, (ok, I am, she isn't), so when we decided to take our relationship past the "dating" level, and be life partners, we discussed the rules of our relationship, and we have both remained faithful to the rules we established. My wild friends tell me she will change her mind one day, but so far, she has kept her end of the agreement. The interesting thing about it, from an emotional/love point of view, is that some people wonder how we can feel LOVE for each other, when we (or mostly just ME) has other partners. I find that I love HER more because she allows me the freedom and she feels more secure in our relationship because she gifts me with my freedom, something that few other women would give. It is her gift of love to me. Yeah, you can read into this that I am selfish and having my cake and eating it too. But we are both getting what we want, a life time partner, and living on the wild side once in a while. Sit down with your guy, write out the rules that you feel you can both agree with, and then put them away, review them if they need to be amended later. If you are honest with each other, there is no reason that life can't be wonderful for you both. Good luck, PS. I am not able to SEE those pictures that other posters keep mentioning, if you want to email them to me... it would make my day.
