Well, this is my first time posting. Hello, everybody! I can't believe that I picked such a topic to post on for the first time, but you all seem like friendly people, so I thought I'd give it a try! My boyfriend and I are absurdly in love, and we're both pretty damn shameless in bed. Almost anything suggested on either side is immediately greeted with enthusiasm; in everything from facials to being tied up, I haven't found anything that I wouldn't go for again. That's why my problem is so surprising to me....Of all these things that we do, the one thing that is awkward for me is being on top. I'm a very sexual person. I've masturbated regularly since I hit puberty at ten, and I can fantasize about being on top very easily, and get off on it. But when I actually get up there, something just goes wrong. I can't get the right rhthym. I keep wondering where to put my hands. I shift angles repeatedly, but I can't find the right "spot." This just seems odd to me. Is there a specific way to do it? I can find my G-spot easily with my fingers, a dildo, and (most importantly), my boyfriend can get to it when he's on top. What makes being on top appealing to you, ladies? Is there anything that you do specifically that makes it worthwhile? Do you think this is something I shouldn't care about (different strokes for different folks, after all), or is it fairly important and something to fix in the future? I'm sure that I'll be satisfied either way, but you know, it would be nice to figure out, and for the life of me I haven't been able to do that so far when left to my own devices. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Try putting your hands on his hips and moving up and down on his penis when on top facing him, and have him put his hands under your buttocks and help you move up and down. Stimulate your clitoris while moving back and forth on his penis. If his penis is upwardly (banana) curved and/or short, you should get some g spot stimulation. Try "reverse cowboy" - woman on top, but facing his feet. This may allow for g spot stimulation if he has a downwardly curved or short penis when erect. PM me if you want an internet lesson form the "g spot master".
Being on top, that's my absolute favorite position to be honest. I just put my hands on my husband's chest, or on either side of him, or if we're in a chair or on the couch, I just hold onto that.
I put my hands on his chest or his legs, I alternate usually and try to move just your hips. It took a lot of practice for me though, I only got it right with my man now actually. =P I like being on top because he can see my body and I can see his, along with we can look at each others faces too. And its the easiest position to get off for me... but I like all positions...
I have problem with beeing on top too. It's the worts position for me. I loose rythm, i quicly get tired, i suck honestly...
oftemn i find its just a matter of being self conceise & when u just abandon yourself top the experience & forget all about where to do what & technique & (sorry cutted but no woman wants to be following a lesson plan in the bedroom) just let your body be your guide.. it doesnt matter where you put your hands .. or rythem or anything if you let your body be your guide it becomes natural, just enjoy yourself ..go wild & stop thinking about what your doing
For me its the best position there is... When I face away from my lover, I love to throw my head back so my long red hair reaches down to the top of my butt and he can pull it..... I like being on top facing front, back and sideways... I love it most of all.....because I feel wild, free and abandoned.... and very empowered
Hmm...I'll have to try facing away, thank you for that. I suppose I'll just have to practice more (oh, what a terrible thing THAT is). I suspect that I won't ever like it as much as getting properly fucked on my hands and knees, but it's still worth a shot. A man can't be in control all the time....I think part of it's mental, because I tend to think something along the lines of "Oh, for sweet, gentle sex we have spooning, and for rough sex we have doggy style. Why do we need this?" So I guess that letting go a little will also help.
Hyzenthay - you have not mentioned the missionary position - woman on bottom face up, with a pillow under her butt, and man above her with his weight on his knees and elbows. In my book, this allows the most freedom of movement, and you are face to face, breast to breast, pubes to pubes, and it allows for deep penetration as well for skinny, fairly well endowed guys like me. And there is some g spot stimulation if the woman raises her legs up to near her shoulders and he has his upper body in a vertical position, with arms extended, at least for an upwardly curved penis.
Cutted - thats because this thread is about WOMAN ON TOP not missionary, not woman on bottom as you say in your own post
My gf had problems with this position. I think its pretty common. Practice makes perfect, you will get better!
I actually like being on top. I had to go down on him for my first time. Gives me more pleasure too. Trying to find other positions as well but for now I'm fine with being on top. Is there also such thing as having no pleasure at all with a certain position?
I don't have any advice to contribute or anything, but I prefer girl on top. I'm overweight and being on top makes me feel awful.
My girl prefers to be on top, actually. 'Cause I usually sit up and pay her breasts some attention with my tongue--she goes crazy. hahah I guess it's personal preference!
I also have problems me on top, I find I spend so much time thinking about how I'm moving I cant get off.
