Is it humiliating? My bf wants anal, My mother insists that it is humiliating and that she had never let my dad do it with her?, what should I do…. Help me plz…
holy cow, women are that open with their moms about their sex lives?? no wonder my mother in law looks at me funny sometimes........... :afro: Oh yea, and DO IT, whats humiliating about it? if two people have seen each other naked, theres nothing left to hide or feel humiliated about, thats what i say.
I don't think it's humiliating. If he wants it, why should you think it's humiliating? I mean, he's the one asking for it... if you don't like it or think it hurts, he should be happy that you at least gave it a shot. And if you do like it, you'll both be incredibly happy that you did it.
As for women being that open with their mothers, it depends on the mother/daughter and their relationship. My mom and I are VERY open with each-other. I don't talk to my closest female friend about the things that I talk to my mother about. But we've always had a close mother/daughter friendship, and she's *almost* as open-minded as I am. Sex and such was never a huge secret to me, even when I was young, she always thought of it as, "If you're old enough to ask, you're old enough to know".
I think a better question to ask is if he wants to do it because it might humiliate you. A good way to test is to tell him that you'll only take it in the ass if he does first. Get a strapon and see what he says about it. If he suddenly is offended or something like that, then don't let him do it to you. If he wants to give it out, he's got to be willing to take it too.
I'm pretty sure buttsex would be the last thing I'd talk to my mum about. It's only humiliating if you feel like it is. Personally, I'm a big fan of teh buttseks. I do, however, also enjoy mock-humiliation. So who knows. And anyway, what the fuck does your mum care if you're having some buttsex?
Does your bf know you talk to your mom about having butt sex with him? I'd be a little pissed if I were him...and embarassed/uncomfortable the next time I seen your parents.
You claim to be 30 years old! How do YOU feel about anal sex? You're obviously interested enough to ask about it. Have you looked into it on your own? There are enough resources and comments you can look up to learn how others feel about it. Some like it and some don't. You won't truly know how you feel about it until you try it. But if you have strong objections to it for your own reasons (it appears that you don't), then tell your boyfriend how you feel. He'll either respect your wishes or he'll keep asking. If he leaves over it, then it wasn't you he was interested in anyway. As far as your mom is concerned, it is a parent's job to guide their child. Some parents take it a step further to guide their child into making the right decisions for themselves. Other parents guide from their own perceptions, morals, and beliefs in general. Still others don't guide at all. This last set are not what I consider to be good parents. Your job as an adult is to decide what is right for you. Nobody, not even mom, can do that for you. No matter who gives you advice, once you follow through, you'll have to live with that decision. Good Luck. P.S. If you try it, let us know what you thought about it. :cheers:
why does that feel like an "eye for an eye" kinda thing for me? a guy wanting anal isnt a punishment or something to "get even" about. not every women evens wants to "punk out" their guy in such a manner. I know for a fact that my wife likes me dominant and wouldnt want to do that to me, but she gives me "the butt secks" (LOL sorry i just had to use that, its so funny) whenever i want.
If I was your BF I would be humiliated that you talk to your mom about anal. Here is the thing, It's not humiliating it's just sex? To people love each other they should be willing to experiment with different ideas and fantasies. Definitely do some experimenting as anal stimulation can be sometimes greater than vaginal as there are many more nerve endings around the anus. Go to a sex shop and look at small anal plugs and start with those. I agree though tell him you want him to try it too. Use the plug on him and if he is not willing to let you try then Don't let him try.
I agree! Some things are best resolved in the mind rather than at the dinner table. Moms are a generation apart, and should be saved for situations you can't decide yourself. As for the boyfriend (friend?), talk to him about mutual anal fingering first. That way you'll find if he's in fear for his manhood ("that's just for gays!" bad answer, too macho) or knows he has a prostate. For you, fingering will tell if there's a chance that you'll like the experience, and also help to stretch things to size requirements. But leave ma out of it!
think for yourself, don't let your mom pick and choose wat you'll find pleasureable. besides you can always fuck him back with a strapon
My wife loves anal sex, in fact, she insists on it. When I put my cock in her vagina she'll say, "you know he doesn't belong in there." Does that sound humiliating toward her. She usually sets the pace, and is usually on top during anal. Therefore, my cock may be in her ass, but she's the one pretty much controlling the action. I suppose, if you felt forced to have anal sex, you could feel humiliated. That's why I would suggest you let him know that you only try it with the understanding you are completely in control. You will tell him what you want him to do, and he WILL listen, or the experience will end right then. Good luck! Hopefully you two can take it slow and learn to enjoy anal. My wife and I sure do.
It's different strokes for different folks. Some men do think it is humiliating. That's what gets them off. Some men think it isn't humiliating, and that's what gets them off. I for one would rather submit to someone who does not want to humiliate me. I would rather be done by someone who will consider my feelings, and if I suddenly start saying "ow ow ow!" that he'd stop. That's why I suggested pegging him first. It's not an eye for eye thing, it's just a way to see the man's true view of anal. If he lets you peg him, then he's probably going to be more considerate of you (and he probably won't do it as roughly, since he'll know it's sensitive back there).
yea id be ticked ... ticked enought to then DEMAND buttsex.... and with ropes so u couldnt get away..
If you feel totally fine and comfortable with it then that's what matters... I've never felt humiliated after anal sex... I've always been smiling....
I'm 1 of those lucky guy too, infact if my partner having her period the only thing left is her butt and she prefer it more than vagina.
I'd say that it is naughty, but not humiliating. And even if it would feel humiliating, it can be either good or bad humiliation. if you are in to it and your real needs are taken into consideration, it's good, if not, it's bad. I've personally had to ask guys for anal sex, so I have never been in danger of developing a bad humiliation relationship to it. To me it's just sex and wonderful.
