So my Gf does not even get stimulated from anything and has never masterbated before. She is 19 years old. What could this possibly mean? Any help?
Wow...what could it mean? Any number of possibilities... 1. she doesn't feel comfortable talking to YOU about sex, but she is sexual and does masturbate 2. she had some traumatizing experience (maybe was molested?) and sexuality scares here 3. her libido is low due to hormonal or other physical issues 4. neither you nor her have found what turns her on yet those are just some ideas....if you post more detail it would be easier to help. the best way as always is to communicate with her though...have you asked her what turns her on? whether she likes the idea of sex? how does she respond...defensive, angry, interested, sad? that might give us more of an idea of how to help you. remember in any relationship...communicate, communicate, communicate!!! it's the best way towards fixing any issue (communicate means LISTENING as WELL as talking! )
Tell her to start. She's missing out. lol Try different things. Im sure you'll find something that turns her on. Maybe she's just not comfortable with you? I dont know it could be a lot of things. You should talk to her about it.
The hormonal/biological reasons sound right on the money to me, assuming she's not lying to you... This could be a serious issue, and if so, I don't know if there's a way out for her... talk to doctors, etc... Sometimes "trying exciting things" isn't the answer. This could be medical.
First of all I do try to communicate the problem and we just can't figure out how and why she doesn't feel anything. She has never tried doing it herself, and I told her to try, but she says it won't work. I do bring up sex too, she says she fantasises about it. She sounds timid and a little defensive when we bring it up, but she still wants to feel stimulated. She does feel comfortable talking to me about sex, but not 100%. I doubt she has a tramatizing experience. In fact, she hasn't had any real sexual encounters until me, I am thinking she is still discovering herself and still trying to be comfortable with her body. She does dance a good amount, but it will be hard to prove that is the reason and even harder to stop her from doing her routine dance classes. It is possible we haven't found what turns her on, but the problem is she doesn't even know what she is suppose to feel like when she is turned on. And I have tried a vibrator on her, but nothing happened.
