hearing that i need to be more aggressive from my boyfriend AND my ex-boyfriend, i've decided i need some advice. I'm timid...kind of shy about sex, and i never can get the courage to be the dominant one. my boyfriend says he feels like i never really want to do stuff because im never the one to call upon it, and so he's frustrated with actions i dont take.
ok ok when he is doing stuff to you, aren't you typically more than willing? it's the same for him now go off, and do stuff to him =D
hahaha duck yes thats putting it simply.. take the initiative dont wait for him to initiate ... be waiting at the door naked & strip him b4 he knew what hit him ..& just go for it
You could always try blindfolding him so you can have your way with him.... Sometimes its easier to write an "nasty little love note" than to say it..... Walk in the room wearing something sexy (a simple tight white t-shirt works wonders) and sit on his lap....you won't have to say a word A simple "I am going to take a shower, care to join me" offer works.... Sit down and talk to your boyfriend and tell him you feel shy....ask him to help you be in control some night.....sounds odd....but he can help you by being expressive and making you feel more confident and by NOT taking over if you are hesitant. Meaning if you want to be satisfied you have to take it. It is too easy to let him do all the work....and rather unfair dont ya think? Sex is about playing....have fun, try new things, laugh when it gets awkward....most of all play with your boyfriend. Tap into that area of your brain that makes you blush when you think about what you really want to try.
