I'm going to lose the V soon...need help.

Okay, so I'm 19 and I've never had sex before (I haven't been in any kind of rush to lose it); but I know that I am most likely going too within the next couple of days with my girlfriend. I was just wondering if anyone has any kind of advice or helpfull hints-because, of course, I don't want to be horrible.
Also...one of my key questions is: How do I know where to cum...because I know that everyone is different.

Thanks in advance for the help!!

 

USE A CONDOM!

- make sure she is really lubed up (all wet down there)


um... please be hard.(erect)
don't like... look liek it makes you tired because that turns me off.(i loose my sexual arouse...ness)
dont cum in her vagina. unless you wanna have little children runnig around a year and a half later...



MAKE SURE SHE IS THE ONE FOR YOU (atleast at this moment)

edit* dont cum in her vagina if you arent protected

 

dont ask her "DO you wanna do it?" in a beavis and butthead voice... it is a big turn off. An Ex-Boyfriend actually tryed this being serious...and it didnt work, just made me think he was an idiot!
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er, well, I'd say you can probably cum inside of her, so long as you still have good ole mr condom (with spermicide lubeness) on. I'd feel weird if a guy had to slide out of me in order to cum...

 

Ccommunicate with her about what she likes and wants to do, and be sincere. It's ok to have fun and laugh, as well as be passionate. It might be nice to touch her with your fingers and tongue, so that she becomes excited and cums herself. Once you cum, (if you're like me) you'll find that it's more difficult to try and please her . . . so I'd hold off entering her & cumming until she's super-excited and ready for you to enter her. If you have intercourse, use a condom. Whatever you do, don't cum on her face unless she really wants you to do so. If you have an open attitude, the more you make love, the better you'll become. Also, every partner and every time is different -- so you gotta be on your toes -- which makes it interesting. It might take a few times for you & your partner to get in the same groove and click. Good luck.

 

I can't agree more... this is the single most important thing you can do!!!

 

Carry a map...I don't know if it's just me, but finding my way in is something close to impossible :&

 

obviosly use a condom, but you knew that already...dont fuck her then turn over and fall asleep, snuggle with her...while you are still naked, kiss her and tell her you love her, if you really do of course (and if you dont, then why are you having sex with her?) Take your time, do it slow, theres more passion that way and things will come naturally. good luck!

 

I agree with all of this, but be careful about the condom... You can't leave the condom on for too long after you've cum because it starts to descintrate (sp), plus 'cum' could dribble out and into the wrong holes.

Once you've finished, make taking the condom off a priority... be sure to use a tissue to wipe away any remaining cum from the tip of your penis, then get back to the naked cuddling

 

heheahha thats funny..the things people will do for booty

peace
chickens

 

so should i just ask where to cum or just kind of play it by ear?

-thanks again

 

Why the hell do you need to ask where to cum? lol. Use a condom...cum in the condom. There ya go...

 

I think you'll find most of the time you won't be able to control where or when you cum But my recomendation, unless she specificly askes you to do something else, cum in the condom, in her...

 

Ask her... please ask her what she wants! I'm feeling kind of odd because when I lost my virginity, the guy didn't ask and... even though he was wearing a condom I told him to to cum in me! It was my personal preference and a "safety" issue for me! I was nervous and she may be too. So, please ask her before. It makes a girl uncomfortable to tell without being asked! Afterwards cuddle and tell her that you enjoyed it and you are happy your first time was with her. If this is her first time you'll have to reassure her, and if you need a little reassurance, nudge her to tell you it's ok and that she's enjoying it. Make sure she's comfortable with everything you do or she might not enjoy it because she may become nervous... sometimes even "mad" if you take it uppon yourself to do some things! Remember, if this is the woman you love ( again.. at least for now) you shouldn't be afraid or nervous to ask her what she wants and what she likes. She'll more than likely be open to discussing it with you other wise she wouldn't be wanting to have sex in the first place. Remember, women aren't something to be feared! Love her and comfort her... let her know you care and aren't just there for the nookie and she'll be more open and willing!
Hope this all helped! Peace

 

1) Take things slowly

2) Communicate. This is VERY important. Some girls have a hard time letting you know what they want or providing feedback on what is happening. The more to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling and ask her how she is feeling, the more you'll know about what is happening. The world's greatest lover is the man who puts the needs of his woman before his own and takes the time to find out what she wants and needs

3) Don't feel like you have to perform. Sex isn't a test where the objective is to make your girlfriend pop her cookies. That kind of mechanistic goal-driven sex is a big turn-off for most women. It also completely misses the point of sex, which is to be together with someone and achieve a higher level of intimacy. Well, that and making babies, which I'm assuming you're taking precautions to prevent.

4) After you two are finished, don't just roll over and go to sleep. Stay with her. Hold her, talk to her, tell her how you feel. Bond with her. Why this isn't something that guys do automatically is something I'll never understand because it can be the best part of the experience.

Kelticman

 

any advise for a girl..bout to loose her v?!

 

Dont expect much. the first time isn't that great for us girls. Relax...don't leave the shirt on, lol. Breathe...use lube..enjoy

And for the guy...DON'T ASK her if she came....if you have to ask, she didn't. You will know when a girl comes, and if it doesn't happen, don't sweat it. Most women cant orgasm just through penetration, so don't ignore the clit.