...i've been with my gf for just over 2 months now, so we are still discovering what turns us on sexually. About 3 weeks ago she asked me how I felt about anal sex. I said that i'd never experienced it, but had thought about it (obviously - i'm a guy!) and that the idea was definately a turn on (in my mind anyway). She said it was something that she'd like to try with me. So the other night we are messing about and she suggests it again. As I said, the idea was a real turn on, but when 'push came to shove' (not the best analogy, I know!), I started having second thoughts. She was really up for it though, saying just the thought that it was 'wrong' excited her... so we got some lube and went for it. Physically I 'performed' and she really got off on it, orgasming 3 times. My 'problem' now, is that my gf wants anal sex more and more - almost to the exclusion of 'conventional' sex; she says she really loves the feeling of 'fullness' whilst she plays with her pussy. The last 4 times we have had sex, she has always ended up wanting anal - and this is my dilemma: I have strong feelings for her - doubt its love yet - and want to make her happy - but she seems to be becoming obsessed with the anal thing. Last night she actually stopped me whilst we were having anal and asked me to take the condom off so I could 'cum in her butt'. It felt pretty damn good to be honest, and she almost passed out with the pleasure but i'm still not fully comfortable with it and am torn between 'what's right' and 'what feels good'. Any advice/opinions?...
Hey don't worry about what is right and wrong if she likes it and wants it and you like it too THEN DO IT!!!!!!
you need to tell her this, youre not going to change a damn thing about it unless she knows how you feel. why dont you tell her that, you like her to feel good, but you would also like it if you did other things so that it doesnt get boring, I mean once you 'deflower' the act, its not really deviant anymore and therefore, you strip it of its purpose. but overall, if you wan things to change, she need to know how you feel
Relationships are always give and take. If she enjoys this, then great, keep doing it (even if you don't like it so much)... what it means in return however is that she should be more willing to do something for you that she might not like so much (blowjobs maybe? just as a very random suggestion). At the end of the day however you need to sit down and talk with her, tell her that you don't like it so much, but that you'll happily do it, provided you also do other things, and that she try out things that you fancy from time to time. It's highly possable that she thinks you love it (as most men do), and so thinks everything is good and well, so unless you talk with her, you'll never get anything sorted out.
What the heavens is 'wrong' about anal sex. Some people and their sexual hang ups... Where do you get them from. Before we know it oral sex is going to be 'bad' again. I bet you didn't know that many years ago, oral sex was also 'taboo'. What matters most is how people feel, that they feel good, they feel loved. Not necessarily what's right, but what's good. And feeling good isn't being bad. Got it? Mark
my b/f got me into anal..it fees really good. if it makes her happy. keep doing it. lord knows we do..
As mentioned befor there is nothign wrong with anal, that just comes from a culture where Diffrent things are looked down upon by people who have not even tried them and are to close minded to even try them. Did you know that back in the 20's play boy had a poll of what % of women every tried it ontop, and the number was very low, think 20's old times probably all still doing missonary that pool was taken again recently ( 90's) and the number was signifigently higher as it became more accepted for ladies to do that, Now would you say there is anything wrong with a women being ontop, and trading off? See the point, eventualy anal will become more social acceptably and normal just as such populary things as Doggy or revers cow girl
