Has anyone ever read this book? What are your thoughts? A friend recommend I read it, so on my long complicated venture from L.A. back home to Michigan, I did just that... It really got me fascinated in the whole idea of open relationships and how actually HEALTHY it can be. I find myself at this point in my life not wanting a relationship right now. There are too many other things I would like to do with my life than have to worry about such serious things...but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy the company of others! I enjoy cuddling and kissing, but I don't really want the dependence that sometimes goes along with it in the "typical" relationships that I've been in. It has also arised for the simple fact that I love and care for someone that currently lives two thousand miles away and it will probably be this way for some time. I love him and want him to be happy and currently, it isn't possible for us to have a sex life...therefore, who am I to sit here and say that he should be monogamous and only have sex with someone that he may not see more than a few times a year for a few weeks at a time? It's not fair to him and he definitely, in my opinion, should have the option to satisfy himself how he sees fit...as should I. I love to cuddle and with him being so far away, I should have that option to cuddle up next to someone if I choose to do so...but with the understanding that we still love one another and will be together soon. I just kind of like the idea...and I really enjoyed the book. It truely opened my eyes to something I may not have otherwise understood. I've always been a skeptic of open relationships, but I'm finding myself interested now more than anything else.
I have not read it but I will see if I can find it. Me and the wife have opened up our sex life in the past year to having other girls. It has not changed the way we love each other at all. We do not see any thing wrong with it having an open sex life.
DancerAnnie, I'm glad that you mentioned this book. I've been wanting to read it (buy it actually), but I've been putting it off. Seeing what you've written here, and on other threads really makes you shine. Keep your mind and your heart open, and tell him how you feel. It may be better to bring the subject up by saying that an article, a website, or the book caught your interest. Then go from there. As oposed to just flat out bringing up open relationships. From reading your posts, you don't seem like you need any advice. Just keep being you, and do what you're doing.
Hey Annie, I'd been wondering what happened to you. I've heard good things about that book and I remember looking at it in a store but I haven't read it. Open relationships and polyamory can work pretty well if you have the personality for it, though not everybody does. It seems to me though that LTR's generally just don't work out that well, and if you want to stay with that guy, you should find a way to stay with him, moving to where he is or getting him to stay where you are. Please put me on your waiting list for a cuddle .
I don't know that we will work out...I'm letting go of him for a little while because he doesn't know what he wants from himself, let alone from me. I love him...and I'm in love with him...and I'm convinced if you love someone, you should let them go...and if they come back, it was meant to be. We shall see. And I could use a cuddle right now
I believe that long term relationships could last even if they are not monogamous. Responsible non-monogamy is the key. It's just my opninion, but I think that the Polyprimary version of a polyamorous relationship would work best.
