Courting a Cousin (in the second degree)

Not the frist time this conundrum crossed my path, but i don't want to think about the past

She's a second cousin that i have known for generally most my life, but we never hanged out that much. But recently we been going to various sort of family related scenes and had great times. One of them we learned to dance salsa a more recent one we wathced a musical (not how lame i am becasue at all these events some of my family was there) well during the musical i made my feelings more forward. Her foot grazed my leg and i played back a little she retreated at frist then later it contrined. i had my arms rest besides her and we very lightly just moved nothing real intimate at all. We were talking afterwords and we talk above averagely well. She was chatting on myspace, and i was just very lightly flirting and basically she said that if i want she would like to hang out

i'm not having doubts per say but i do have some she is about a year younger then me so ages isn't a question but i feel i may might be using some family tie to get closer.

I do want to get closer but i know part of my feelings is that i've failed to get close with people i know from school.

Maybe if i had something someone i would stay away just from the risk, and i'm not sure if i should let that social stigma hold me back. i'm unsure, and exposed but all relationships start that way, but i'm not sure if being relatives could seriously get in the way
thx

 

I think it's a bit more than a social stigma. She is your second cousin.


My advice is stop right now and find a girl that you aren't related to if you want a girlfriend.

 

According to Norman Mailer in "The Castle in the Forest", Adolf Hitler's mother was also his sister. His father fathered a child with his mistress, she died, and he married his daughter. So this is what incest can do.

 

not an advent supportter of incent i have to say that is a very bias thought. and if anything limits your world view. It like if hitler was gay, or his dather was and then you say that's what homosexuality can do

 

Um, am I the only one here who doesn't really see a big problem with this kind of relationship? Aside, of course, from the reactions you'd have to expect from the rest of your family, I really don't see who it hurts. There are plenty of states/provinces that allow second cousins to marry

 

I don't think it is that bad but yea you might have to deal with some family fights.

 

Sininabin, here's my advice. Don't go any further!

You're not emotionally attached to this girl (remember, your cousin), so get out now while it's easy. I don't think you want to be "that guy" who's dating his cousin.

Go find another girl...

 

what if u for instence have a baby with her that innocent child will be proned to birth defects. OOPS! shold have given that a thought now shouldn't you ?

 

You know what dude, forget about everyone els... It's your business, if the 2 of you have feelings then i say go for it, keep it on the downlo for starters if you feel its best to play it safe. Then see where that takes you.
Thats my input.

 

How dare you.

 

are you guys related by blood or marriage?

If its by marriage then i dont see anything wrong with it but if its by blood, as a biologist id be obliged to say "EEEK!"