Dates and the proceeding complications...

I went on a date with a friend today. It was nice, but I don't find myself physically attracted to her. She's very nice, and all, but we went to the park in the city and she was all over me; kissing, hugging, and more kissing. As we left the park she would stop every few steps so I could kiss her. It soon became annoying, and she seemed extremely clingy - almost like she liked me too much for comfort on the first date.

As we left each other to go home, we hugged on the station platform and kissed. She got on her train whilst staring at me; just staring through the seats and beyond the busy platform to meet me. I tried diverting my eyes from her, but I felt more compelled than anything to stare back in bemusement.

I'm really confused as to how I should go about this. I'm not looking for a relationship, in any way, but, then again, I don't want her to feel like I used her for some easy kisses (because I didn't). I feel like I've led her on and now I'm going to disappoint her. Although, then again, if I keep going on with this I'll lead her on even more and it'll be even worse.

Advice is really needed, and very much appreciated.

 

just tell her how you feel

 

I thought you wanted a relationship Luke, is she not pretty enough for ya?


On a more serious note...

I don't think modern dating takes kissing seriously, making out is perceived standard on any date, attraction or not, by many people. It's a tad sad, but oh well... I wouldn't worry too much about it, especially since it seems like she was coming on to you.

If you really don't want to date her then you have two choices:

1) The easy one is just to ignore her a tad, say you can't go out because of this and that, and so on... make rejection obvious but not too painful... (this is not the "manly" way out though)

2) Talk to her about it, tell her you're not ready for a relationship, blah, blah, blah. Who knows, maybe she doesn't want a relationship herself... and is just looking for some fun.

Anyhow,

My the force be with you.

 

Better tell her now than later because it will hurt more by then.

 

Actually, I've been thinking: "I'm too young to take things seriously"