how do you get someone to fall madly in love with you??

and how do you do it when you talk once a week and see each other every other week?

or what things did/would your partner (or wannabe partner) do to make you fall in love with them?

 

talking only once a week won't achieve much - hate to get your hopes up.

If there was an easy answer to any of your questions, there would be far fewer single people in this world.

 

we have a lot of sex too, does that help me at all?

 

ya-stop having sex with him if he doesn't love you. You will feel better about yourself and he will pick up on it.

 

I'm confused...do you talk more, or have sex more?

 

How is it that you only talk once a week? Do they not have access to the Internet, phone etc? (Or are they abroad?).


Long distance relationships (and this is sounding like one) are very difficult even where both individuals are utterly committed to one another. Outside of sending emails, letters, txt msg's, phone calls, and the odd surprise gift there really isn't anything much else that you can do to make them see and feel just how much they mean to you.

On the flip side, trying to make them fall madly in love with you, unless they themselves feel that way, there is nothing you can do to instil within them emotions and feelings that just may not be there. So to this I would say just be yourself at all times and let them know you are thinking about them, be honest about your feelings (even if they were not to reciprocate them, honesty would still be the best course of action) and communicate (and that's the problem here) with them as often as you can.

How long is this 'long term' part of your relationship going to carry on for? It might help if there was a date or time where you could both look forward to when you might eventually be together permanently. Where there is no such goal to aim for, then I don't know, perhaps you both should discuss this with each other? It's impossible to gauge someone's emotions via reading a post, but it sounded like you are a little afraid that you may lose this someone special where things to continue as they are at present and if that is the case you should speak to them about it when next you meet.

Goodluck

 

well if you're not actually going out with eachother i would stop the sex thing because he might be using you and that would be absolutely AWFUL.

 

I sometimes only see my boyfriend once a month when we get into incredibly busy schedules. Its not easy. At first I couldn't understand and it got me VERY depressed but I'm still here because his commitment is so strong.

We both teach so at the end of the day, the last thing we want to do is talk again so phone conversations are a minimum but there are always emails and text messages. Text messages help you feel that you are there with him and he is here with you experiencing the same thing even though we are miles apart.

Of course I go crazy sometimes and have totally negative thoughts but I think that is a phase you go through every now and then. As long as you know how to get out of it, its all cool.

One of my collegues' boyfriend lives in another city too and they've been going for 2 and half years and still strong.

But yes, it takes so much more work but at the same time, you feel the 'honeymoon phase' for a longer period too.