how long before sex

In a deeply caring and nurturing relationship, how long is usually appropriate if you really are attatched to one another?

 

I couldnt tell you how long exactly....but youll know when its right..

 

agreed with the dude above


I'm trying to pace it so it seems like the next logical step around the same time I decide I am ready (I don't like commitment mcuh and feel that sex is wrong without it)
and I doubt it's going to go as smoothly as I'm aiming for.. but I guess we'll see

and if she's not ready yet, don't be a douche about it, just wait it out

 

No one can tell you that but yourself.
Go with the flow and do whatever feels right for you and the other involved.
There's no rush. From experience i think the longer you wait the better.

 

When you both feel it is the right time.

 

15 minutes

 

Hmmm... in theory, I agree with everyone else here. In practice, I guess I agree with the guy above me. My partner and I had lots and lots of sex the very day we met (well, we met around midday, and the sex wasn't until all night long...:stunned and we're still together and more in love than ever, more than 5 years down the road. But basically, I still agree with everyone else - just wait till the time is right, and you'll feel it. The time was right when we did, even though it was long before we ever considered a really committed relationship.

 

Well.. I guess it was a dumb question to begin with. I just don't want to rush into things with this one. She's special.

 

really depends on the two involved...

anywhere from 3 days to 4 months, for me at least.

 

Then wait for a signal from her.
You don't want to push her away.

 

Here is how relationships go---at first there is attraction, then infatuation (a "crush"), then inevitably you start to find faults with each other (we all have them), and some disallusionment results, and you either break up or harmonize those feelings and fall in love. It takes time - a lot of time.

 

For my next relationship i think i will wait a "long time"... With my last boyfriend i had sex before we were together... And now i think i want to wait some time and when i know him very well and the time is right we are going to have sex... but that's the theorie... possible is that we will have sex very fast because i can't wait:$

 

I disagree

I am definently infatuated with my girl, and I definently have notcied faults as well

 

It took me 8 months with my last bf, but i felt ready alot earlyer. Don't rush into anything. If she meens alot to her, try to get atacched emotianlay first. It's lot better that way.

 

dont push it... do it when it feels right and your both ready

 

Duck - you are entering Phase 3....

 

it's different for each person you are involved with..... i waited 8 months with one of my boyfriends and with the current one, it was like 3 weeks

 

really?
it's not even been two months =/ (though I was tlaking to her for about 3 and half before we started goin out :tongue

 

well, my current boyfriend was what i thought would be a one night stand... haha.
four months down the road, we are still together!
it just depends on the person and the emotional maturity level, i suppose.

 

what's the rush, if your really serious about someone then you have the rest of your life for sex, take this time and get to know each other on a deeper level. or you can go with Dr Hook when he said "you got to get your rocks off". oh fuck what the hell do i know anyway im just a guinea