he grew up to do WHAT??

My hubby and I were joking about what our worst fears would be for our child. It started when Matt jokingly called Mandred a "Bush supporter".

After an hour or so of converstation, I realized that my worse fear for my son's future would be if he became of of those right wing christian fundmentalists. I would still love him and all that, blah, blah, blah, but it would be really hard to me to get a grip on.

What would be your worst fears? Keep it light though.. no car accidents or stuff like that. Everyone survives!!!

(p.s this whole thread was supposed to be light hearted, joking... but apparently that is not possiable.)

 

I would literally disown my daughter if she became a lobbyist of any sort on Capitol Hill. I cannot stand lobbyists.

She could be a cracked out skeezy stripper and I would love her, but I cannot live with a lobbyist.

 

The conversation has come up between hubby and I over what we'd do if our kid turned into some fundamentalist zealot. We know there's a good chance he'll go through a "christian phase" considering the large christian influence in this country - we just hope we will have raised him well enough to avoid the bigotry, insensitivity, and plain old nuttiness that the fundamentalists often display.

 

We also have fears that our little pagan leftist will grow up to be a right wing christian republican. At least we don't have to worry about him becoming president. (He wasn't born in this country.)

Kathi

 

My daughters are actually going through a Christian phase...I'm more pagan/agnostic....they are so funny, Virginia (4) says her blessings at every meal, and Maddie worries about whether or not she's going to go to heaven (damn schools).


I guess I am nervous that they want to become preppy cheerleaders in high school....

 

boy are you guys ever judgemental about "christianity eh?


There are a lot of great christians and i beg to differ that we are all not wing nuts . Watch what you say. This is a public forum.

 

bah... whatever

 

PG, this is a public forum. They don't have to watch what they say.

 

Ever hear the phrase "What you resists persists" or "You attract what you fear". It's true--I had a huge fear of driving, and sure enough, I got into an accident. You should focus on what you want your kid to be, and try and stay away from the negatives.


But with that disclosure out of the way... I'd despair at having a son who uses/disrespects women, or having a daughter who thought she had to act dumb to be accepted by boys/society.

 

the only thing that i wouldn't want for my daughters if for them to grow up to be mean, shallow, insensitive bitches that go out of their way to hurt other people. being middle of the road, i get to not worry about their politics or religious leanings too much. the way i figure it, so long as they're not vicious, they'll be just fine.

 

My worst nightmare is for my son to want to join the military. It would break my heart to see him sent away to die. This is something that has bothered me since I got pregnant with him!

 

shallow, ungrateful brats. But that won't happen because I won't let it. My kids can be or do whatever. As long as they don't hurt anyone.

 

oh and my hubby says his worst fear is they turn out like him *rolls eyes*

 

Haha

Isn't that the curse, though? That we all have children that are exactly like we were?

 

I don't have kids yet, but when I was younger, I worried that they would be disrespectful to women (if I had boys) or man haters (if I had girls) just because of the climate of society. But I don't really worry about that any more b/c my hubby is a great man, And I'm definitely not a man hater, so I believe our kids will learn what they live and grow up to be respectful and loving of both sexes.
Sooo, for now I have to agree with jgirl. It would be my worst nightmare if one of my (hypothetical) children wanted to join the military. My little bro almost did, and that was terrifying enough.

 

I wouldnt be too enamoured if our son became a Catholic Priest lol...


but seriously if he grew up to be insensitive, cruel and ruthless that would really worry me...

dont care how he votes, how he dresses or what religion he chooses as long as he is happy, kind and strong in himself....

 

My worst fears were becoming real, my son was going to be a cop. He had been involoved in the junior police explorer program and had been accepted in the justice program at the university. His attitude had changed from hanging out with cops and looking up to them. He was becoming one of them. It wasn't fair, he had way to much insider information from his old hippie parents.

Then he got busted for underage drinking by the same cop who was his explorer sponser. He was coming home from a party in a very responsible way. His totally sober driver stopped at a fast food joint, they went in to get food and as they were leaving one of them slipped on the ice. The cop saw them and breathalized them. Three of them blew a .02 or something like that, the driver nothing. He was issued a ticket. During the next week the same cop ticketed him or being parked in front of a driveway and the next day for sliding through an icy intersection.

The tickets cost him $1200 bucks. He changed his major to fire sciences and has become a student firefighter. Turns out the jerk cop did us a favor.

 

My middle kid said she wanted to join the reserve to help pay for education. Even I was surprised by how vehemently I was oposed to it. I don't think I've worked so damn hard to get scholarship fund for anyone in my life (thankfully she's going to UT on a full scholarship).

Don't get me wrong, those who join the army are remarkably brave, but a large part of me would die if she (or any of my kids) was killed or injured.

 

I fear that they will grow up doing something that doesn't make them truely happy. Beyond that who am I as a parent to put down what they want to do (when they are older anyway). If they want to be a cop,a priest or have a military career, I could care less. I just want them to continue coming around when they get older and for them to fill fullfilled as much as possible.

 

Very odd fears. Your fear is keeping it light? LOL Wow. Well, my fear would be that my child [or children] would become bigots. Not the politically correct highjacked meaning of the word, the literal meaning. But that's still their rights to say whatever the hell they want to say, because I believe in freedom of speech, and freedom of expression, that's why. I don't have kids. I guess I don't adhere to the grand mating call that apparently takes place in America's hip hop culture.