On average, how long does it take you to cum during intercourse? The girl I'm with now takes like 2 minutes to orgasm and I can never do it. When I masturbate I can do it almost as fast as I want to like 1 minute if I go hard. I thought maybe this is psychological or that I am uncut (which I am scheduled to get circumsised soon). It seems when I am inside her my foreskin stays in one place and my head just keeps going in and out of it. Any ideas or is it normal?
Schmitty - when you are circumcised, the most sensitive part of the penis, the coronal ridge (the raised ridge at the back of the glans, often reddish in color) frictions with the interior walls of the vagina, and creates a lot of arousal stimulation. With your foreskin protecting the glans, the friction you feel is the foreskin against the coronal ridge, since your foreskin slips back and forth over the head during intercourse,as you say. Whether this is tha case if you wear a condom differs from guy to guy.
Your penis and your 4skin are acting as they should, don't worry. This slipping in and out prevents the 'rubbibg' effect or friction at/on the woman's labial lips. You might better have her spend more time on foreplay, setting you up, than a useless operation that you're gonna regret. Instant gratification seems to be more important to you than the woman's comfort. Also of note: females take longer than two minutes to orgasm! Do youself a favor and rethink your lovemaking, attitude toward oral sex, and knowledge of female anatomy - before relieving yourself of four square inches of nerve endings that have evolved there to help you enjoy sex. It's all good with extra study, dude.
Hey, maybe it takes you longer than 2 minutes but not in my case My last girlfriend I could make her cum several times in around 10 minutes which was enough for me to orgasm too. Her comfort is most improtant to me, but she has expressed displeasure that she thinks I am not into her that I can't cum with her.
Schmitty - I believe that the essence of being a good lover is to put the pleasure of your mate ahead of your own pleasure. So many guys are "Wham, bam, thank you, ma'am" - two minutes and they are done and roll over and go to sleep. It takes most women much longer to reach orgasm (and most can never get there through intercourse alone), so for the whammers, their women are left unsatisfied. Learn to retard your orgasm unitl your lover is on the same page, and you might just "Come together", as the Beatles song says.
It depends. If my lover is hot and has me really turned on, it doesn't take long. Usually, if she cums in a really hot manner (moaning, humping, screaming, etc.) it drives me over the edge quickly. On the other hand, if I'm prepared for her orgasm to hit, I can last a long time. I love making her cum several times before I do. Foreplay is essential to making that happen.
It depends a great deal. If she's going wild, she can easily send me over the edge in no time. If I've orgasmed earlier that day, it'll take longer, and if i've orgasmed within an hour or so, it might take quite a while. But it all depends. And also whether I'm trying to orgasm or whether I'm trying to last as long as I can.
Hey Cutted, I don't think you read my latest post, she has expressed displeasure in the fact I don't cum before she does and when she cums she asks me to slow down which means I can't cum which means she isn't happy. I strive to make sure she is the one satisfied. I just think the circumsision I have booked (Yes I booked it! Just on a waiting list) will fix it. My problem was that the foreskin inhibited the friction and I certainly felt this when inside her. Picture this: My foreskin stays in the same place with my head goes back and forth. That was it. Edit: Just to clarify me wanting to please her is the most important thing: I seriously do not care if I cum, all that matters to me is that she is satisfied, at first I thought her cumming was enough but now I know she wants me to aswell.
Schmitty - Our philosophies are similar - put the woman's pleasure first. But you seem to be in a catch 22 - if you go fast, she says slow down; if you slow down, you can't cum, and she wants you to cum too. Here is an idea - put on the Beatles song "Come Together" while you are making love, and try to time your orgasms to the song, so you both cum when they sing the words "Come together". Thes phrase is repeated five or six times in the song, so if you miss one, there is another later on which you can work up to. I've done this and it is great. When you get healed from the circumcision, you will find that the friction on the coronal ridge of the head will increase your feeling inside her during intercourse. Those who urge NoCirc say the head is more sensitive when it is covered by the foreskin when soft, but this does not deal with your problem, which you described well in your post.
People who are uncircumsized give girls the most intense orgasms of their lives. Proven fact. The foreskin creates almost a giant 'rib' on the penis, rubbing all around the inside of the vagina and it's supposed to feel amazing.
Actually, sex is more intense for both people if someone is uncircumsized...my bad. This is because the head of the penis is extremely sensitive, and because of that 'rib'.
Tagg - at 15 you have little experience in these matters. The coronal ridge is more exposed on the inthrust and outthrust (especially) for cut men, and stimulates the vaginal walls better. A foreskin will usually slide back over the head on the outthrust, lessening the sensation for both man and woman. If you don't believe me, read Schmitty's post earlier in this thread - he is getting cut soon for exactly this reason. I have made love to over 20 women over 8,000 times, and I know what I am talking about. I did not just read about it in books. But Tagg, don't rush out and get yourself circumcised. It is a matter of individual choice at your age. However, if you have foreskin retraction problems, like some of the other young men who have posted here, I would recommend circumcision if the foreskin cannot be sufficiently stretched, for a better sex life. Having sex (oral or otherwise) with an unretractible foreskin is like trying to lick a lollipop with the wrapping still on it.
