Sacrificed sex for loyalty because i love her

Iv being in a relationship for six years with a girl. i Love her very much and am ready to settle down with her .but the problem is sex. My girl never get exited about sex. i have to ask her whether she is in mood of doing so and then she realises that it had been 3 month's since we had our last kiss.. Since our work schedule is so buzy that it pratically doesn’t allows us meet each other frequently. But we love each other very much.




We talked upon this topic of not being satisfaction and but she just didn’t bothers. And says that guy do things what they like and don’t think about girl... I cant live without her and neither even without sex.. Its being 6 years and still i listen to her what ever she says with believe that some day she till give the heaven full of sex..



One thing im not able to get is that being so loyal and committed in the relationship. Why im unsatisfied.



Why my girl doesn’t feel excited about sex any more even after months of waiting with a desire of having sex with her..



How can i make here believe that i need sexually without hurting her.



Do I have to Sacrificed sex just because I love her



Please help

 

have there been any times, like on vacation or something, where she did? if so, you might just need to take her on a break some times, get her stress free and stuff. make sure her needs are filled too... if she thinks you're using her without caring for her feelings, then make it a point to fulfill her needs. hopefully with those met she'll get horny.but... some ppl just never have a high libido. they're focused on other things in life

 

is the sexual side really that important to you?

I LOVE kissing my girl
I love touching her tits
I love to make her moan

but when it really comes down to it, long as I can tlak to her, long as I can hold her, I'm good



just try to be fair with her
explain to her that just because she doesn't need that kind of thing, that you do
compromise
make deals to have sex if you do something she wants and that sorta thing

and most importantly, get used to jacking off a lot

 

really till the date i dont realised recently how my love life is. i was asuming it was perfectly commited relationship. but when it came to sex. it was like a one sided breeze.. my partner dosent knows what adventure in sex is all about... Im in to commited relationship and dont want to hurt her.. but couldnt withstand my satisfactions. just as i have told you we havt talked upon this thing but i was unable to make her mind on this...
and any way which guy dosent dreams of a despirate girlfriend and wife...

 

Different levels of sexual interest between a man and a woman are major causes of divorce and infidelity. Work it out with her or move on to someone else, no matter how much you love her. She has to know how important this is to you. Go see a couples therapist.

 

Thats what i was thinking of.. seeing a therapist.. Because being 6 years in an relationship and even when i love her so much . It is hard to live life without her.. This is one thing in which ppl dont think by brain but by heart.

The ignorance in sex is the one which im struggling for and one which i couldnt explain her.

 

Jackanova - I am a lay sex therapist, and this is how I work with couples. I meet with both of them and get to know them. At first they are shy opening up about their sex lives with strangers, so we have general discussions to put them at ease. I try to identify exsctly what are the problems during this discussion.

I then meet with them separately, and find out more about their sexual problems, with themselves and with their partner. We also discuss (in complete confidence) their sexual histories.

I then meet with them together briefly at the end of the session, and offer some ideas for them to try. We schedule an appointment for a week or two later, and we meet to discuss how it has gone. We meet together, then separately, then together. Sometimes I might schedule an individual meeting with one or the other between the two meetings. That often ends it, unless they want additional periodic meetings to discuss problems which have come up after the first meetings.

You might think that people are reluctant to share their sex lives with a stranger, but when you think about it, how many times have you shared things very personal with a stranger sitting next to you on an airplane? There is a benefit to doing this with a fellow human being who has heard about every type of sexual condition and problem, and is a practicing sexual being him or herself, and is used to holding confidences and can offer helpful advice.

 

Done better thing which thought would help me. i proposed her about my idea of going to a sex therapist and then stated to do a long talk whether we really need it. seriously i needed that but for a girl who is in love truely and never understand whats adventure in sex is never agreed it.. finally she landedup in a trumatic thought and decided to go for an outing which saturday and make me feel heaven. is this right what im doing. am i forcing her after 6 years or is i should have taken her directly to the therapist.

 

thats difficult to say she may even be amn asexual who will never show interest in sex but will be truly loving,
how often do u bringthis up? are you pushy? is she a virgin still? theres alot of things to concider but if shes wantintg to try to fix it alone on a trip let her and hope for the beszt but be understanding that it may not be easy for her

 

Oh my god man... 6 years and u are unsatisfied ? dump her and go find another , god looking, nice girl who will give anything to please u.... y suffer, and slow down always... she probably has another man, or just nto interested in sex ( any problem she doesnt wanna talk about ) or just mentally tired ... try going on vacation somewhere to the Cuba or alike island and see ... if still, ur lvoe is gone, time to update some things.

 

Sex is definately not the most important thing in a relationship, BUT if there is a huge lack of sex and affection it becomes increasingly more important as time goes by. Unless, one of you are phsically uncapable of sexual activity, it will beccome such a big problem. You will end up un-happy and your overall relationship will crumble. You may try and spice it up somehow?

 

follow your heart,its not all about sex, but if your not happy,move on for the sake of both of you

 

Have you considered the possibility, that she would or might be more enthusiatic, but with some other person ?

 

men will crawl accross broken glass have sex..............thats primal..........maybe she wont mind you seeing a working girl........but if she wants sole rights to your penis.....then she has to be prepaired to feed it

(yes i know ther are exceptions to the rule)....but it would want to be a good one

 

Ya know what ya call this situation? Just friends!

 

talking to her made some difference in our relationship but not much in sex. She started talking care about all the things that we do together like watching movies hanging around near beaches. but when it comes to sex she just tries but, gives up very soon .. i cant keep cribbling on the same topic all the day long.

But could not understand what should i do. We both love each other but , i just cant stay without enough of sex in live. And even could not think of having another affair.

 

many people can and do go with a lack of fufillment in their sex lives
and if you care about her enough, that's just what you will have to do it seems

I read an interesting piece in an advice collumn in a locl paper, talking about how cheating can be justified in certain situations, such as when kids are involved and when spouses have certain handicaps that disable them sexually

I still see it as a breach of trust, and therefore certainly not justified to allow in a relationship, however, it did show me the reality of how even thoguh, I am fine with it, some people can not stand to go without sex (maybe that'll change once I have had it :tongue: )
talk to your wife further about it
if she doesn't realize just how much of a problem this is for you, she won't see any reason to take it as one

the thing I would think be best for this situation is an open relationship, something I was once, very against
the problem is that the wifey may not feel the same
maybe you should start considering this as an option
but keep in mind that some women will view thinking in this way on the level of cheating
I do not know your girl, but with many, even suggesting this idea could be the death of a relationship, so be careful

in this situation, this may be the best option
it may not even be an option

so you also need to start thinking about ways to become more content with what you have
don't let opinions on this site dissillude you, sometimes you have to settle.

 

tell her sh's been a bad girl, put her over your knee, and give her a spanking. she should be in the mood in no time.

 

Begin a self improvement study to develop into being even more interesting and attractive,to turn her on. :egypt:

 

just let her know thaty you miss it... its only human