My issue is this...I've been going out with this girl for close to 3 months, she's asked me to marry her and i said yes, partly because i didn't want to hurt her feelings. I DO love her, don't get me wrong, but i really need a break from her...We are two VERY different personalities. I'm into being free, being healthy, helping people and she's into junk food, complaining, and making fun of people....I want to still be her friend but not her significant other...Please advize me on what to do! ~Peace
Actually i'm undecisive on if i want to end it with her..but still any suggestions would be welcome...any ideas on how we should overcome our differences?
3 months into a relationship and you're engaged? ARE YOU FUCKING CRAZY? *ehem* sorry. Judgementalness out. Seriously though you need to talk out your issues with HER, she's the other person who's engaged. Personally if someone asked me to get married after three months I'd be gone faster than you can blink. That's not enough time to get to know someone, not for me at least.
My thoughts exactly. And I don't even care if I'm being judgemental. You're 17, you've been with a girl for three months, she proposes you and you say yes just so you won't hurt her feelings? That's just stupid.
You DON'T say yes to not hurt their feelings. Now you'll hurt them even more when you tell her all this, AFTER you have told her you would marry her.
Good lord, I hope the proposal was a big joke... Sometimes I joke with my guy friends like that...so...*shrugs*
People, people! Take it easy on a 17y.o. There is a lot of social pressure out there to marry and whatnot. And that also affects teens. I was engaged to someone at age 19. Now I realize it was inconsequential and essentially a head-in-the-clouds engagement. But I was responding to certain internalized social pressures. Anyway, I think the best lesson here, is what the poster above said. You don't compromise sincerity simply to save someone's feelings. A basic premise of human relationships is the ability to say "no." AND, the two-letter word can be said in a compassionate and sensitive way. I think you know what to do already and confirmation is what you're seeking.
Dude your 17, when I was about that age I was engaged to a bloke who I thought was excellent he turned out to be a knob Like you werent right together, if I where you I would say to her that you dont want the same things as what she does and dont forget you may feel older wiser etc BUT your 17.
You already know the answer. Leave but just be honest with her. Deal with the emotional side and split. If you meet up later try to be friends but don't push it.
When someone wants to marry someone else after only 3 months, they have serious issues. Did her dad leave her at a young age? I bet something happened like that. Besides, bro, don't be getting her hopes up and all. If she is an emotionally damaged person, do her some good and tell her the truth, and explain your point of view. That way she'll learn to be happy in the moment and hopefully grow and repair anything that might have happened. Even if she wasn't "left" early on, you should still tell her honestly and sincerely how you feel, it isn't cool to lead anyone on.
As someone that is in the process of getting out of seven year marriage, be very careful about who you choose to marry. My ex and I were always and still are good friends, but we just can't function as spouses. We are both very different, and we thought that being married would bring us closer together, but I think that the opposite happened. Now we have a house that I am going to solely financially responsible for, and I can barely afford it. I would like to say that we were in love when I proposed, but the truth is we were both just using each other to get out of bad situations.
