To Old Crone or anyone else who may have some insight

Hello,
I have a friend that I have known since I was six and she was five (Im 32 and she is 31 now). We have always remained close, even if years, months or weeks have gone by, we have the sort of relationship where it just picks up where it left off. When she planned her first child , she begged for me to have my second child, so we were pregnant together and her child and my second born are 6 weeks apart.

Well,I last spoke to her in either late Sept early Oct. Since then I had called a couple times before Christmas but did not leave a message, she has caller id. She never called me back, something she usually does. I never got a Christmas card from her, not unusual since she doesnt do them every year but I did not recieve a card from her parents. I ALWAYS get a card from her parents no matter what. Then I knew something had to be up because if she is mad at someone then her mom will be too. I sent out a B-Day card to her daughter so that it would arrive right on her B-day, instead of a few days ahead. And realized that we never got an invite to her B-day party.

I know her very well. She is mad. What I did, I have no clue. I just know that our last conversation, I believe went very well. Was no different then any other. When she is mad at someone she tends not to tell them but will let everyone else know.

Would you have any idea what is going on with her? or what I could have possibly have done?

Thanks

 

ah , a mystery . i'll have a go at it .


what i'm doing now is spinning a wheel , like the sort that's in a board game . sometimes i play with it in a silly way , sometimes not . it is rather a wheel of truth . here goes . question and answer style :

mmm ... is she mad at you ?
no . she may have confused your friendship with another issue . this she can resolve , in time . she has some concern about her sense of place and home .

confirm this ?
yes . and she would like you to come see her . or perhaps travel together . or do invite her over .

her essential need ?
to be touched .

please let me know sometime how it goes .

sincerely ,
mikul tuba

 

Hi, Autumn.

There are times for being psychic, but I'm thinking this is probably not one of those times. What this seems to be is a time for you to use some communication and relationship skills.

You're assuming a lot. The bottom line is: You don't KNOW why she's not responding. You think you do, but it's all based on your assumptions, without any real evidence.

The way to find out the facts is to ask. Next time you phone, try leaving a message. Just say you're worried about her because you've called and she hasn't called back, and you hope everything is okay. Are you worried? I'm a bit worried about her.

If that doesn't get a response, can you talk to her mother? Do you have any friends in common? Could you show up on her doorstep after leaving a phone message that you plan to come by sometime to see how she is? There are lots of ways to bridge this gap.

Be peaceful and accepting of the situation, no matter how it turns out. This is a spiritual task. It's a hard one, and you have my sympathy.

Sending you warmth, peace, and strength.

 

Hi Tikoo,

Thank you for your response - I will let you know how it goes.

 

Hi Zengizmo,

Thank you for your reply. Your warmth, peace and strength is much needed, Thank you

 

She might be suffering from post-partum depression.


If she is then her natural inclination to re-direct her anger towards an object or an individual would only be heightened.

I'm guessing she was probably spoiled as a kid :H



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