Guys and Girls! I need help with a massive boy attitude problem! Eversince I can remember, whenever I like a guy – regardless of whether they like me too or not – the guy always ends up knowing that I like him eventhough I or any of my friends don’t tell him or any of HIS friends. And so after he finds out, he (or they) always end(s) up avoiding me or hating me. I don’t know if I’m too obvious when I’m around the guy I like. My question is (Because right now I like this new guy)… How can a guy tell if a girl likes him? And with that, what can I do to discreetly let him know that I like him without scaring him away? I will appreciate anyone’s response. Thanks. :drool:
hmmm...well i dont think the guy(s) will know you like him, but he'll pick up little vibes that'll make him think that there might be a possibility. its hard to explain really. an example would be, for me, i was at a mates party on the 28th december. me n this lass, who i wouldnt even think liked me, started chattin n that. just about random, silly, humorous talk really. we were kinda' playfully 'mockin' each other, talking randomly about anything, didnt care if it made sense. you're probably confused by that now. hmmm... its probably little vibes or signals ya send out. but a lad never really knows for certain if its, ya know, for them. maybe you send them out too much, or something?? =S
Body language. If a girl touches her hair a lot when she is around a guy it might be a sign that she is interested in him.
Guys in their teens are basically clueless. You have to practically hit them over the head to get their interest. Girls learn how to flirt to attract guys. Nothing wrong with that. Or get into a discussion with a guy you like on the internet or text message them.
There is a profound misconception based on gender roles at work here. Women aren't slated by some mysterious force of nature to be discreet. There is nothing wrong, thread-starter, with making your feelings known. I understand you're a bit young, and probably dealing with guys who haven't had much time to question social norms as such, but (!) if you scare a guy off when he gets wind that you like him, two possibilities remain: 1) he doesn't like you; 2) he's not worth your humanity;
the thing is i only tell my closest friends and i'm very confident that they're not selling me out... I dunno anymore. Seriouslt
I guess I am missing why you don't want them to know? Its not like they are just avoiding you becuase you like them. Don't try to be so sneaky. Just take them as they come.
They probably pick up little vibes like someone up there said. I can give another example. Some girl, like the guy up there, that I wouldn't think ever liked me, has started to talk to me lately. I could tell that she liked me pretty much instantly; she was really "skittish" around me. I can't really explain it. She would also IM me a lot and whatnot. I know that she likes me because I asked her and she flatout told me and then got mad immediately afterwards. I would say, try to pick up on how he is diggin you. If it seems like he MIGHT be interested, be a little more elusive. But don't be too much so, he might feel like you are running away from him.
I think that flirting is a big thing too. I mean you know little things like saying things that could be taken a couple of ways just so you can always say something like just kidding if it isn't received well.
