How often do you talk about/mention your sexuality?

People don't have to ask me, you can just tell by the way I dress. I wear girl's skin tight pants, and tiny t-shirts, plus I have a very, very petite stature coupled with a pretty feminine attitude. I talk about hot guys in stores all the time with my friends, and I don't really care if anyone hears me or not. If they don't like me, they don't have to pay attention to me. If, in the rare event, someone does ask my about my sexuality, I tell them the truth, then carry on ask if nothing happened. But I don't like wear rainbow stuff (omg tacky) or anything like that. People just tend to know because of my normal behavior.

 

It varies from time to time and place to place. As I get older, it becomes less and less of an issue.

 

I like ot tell people about my sexuality. I believe it is something that defines me, and I want people to know that, to know who I am.

 

Baby, I am so glad that you have comfortable with you sexuality at such a young age. It is great that you are effeminate and don't give a shit, what a bunch of rednecks think.

However, I would like to pose a question to you. You say "people just tend to know because of my normal behavior." Does one's sexuality lend itself to a certain behavior pattern? You are a young gay man who happens to be effeminate. Our behavior covers the full spectrium. I am also a bit on the effeminate side of the fence. Your statement gives the bigots ammunition. Whenever, they see an effeminate male or butch female it reinforces their views. Just be careful, many places in Texas aren't as open as Austin or Houston.

 

I'll speak about it occasionally with close friends or family, but in general I rarely speak about it at all. I just don't feel comfortable talking about it around most people, whether they are accepting or not. That probably has to do with the fact that I live in a small community with a LOT of close-minded people.

 

I used to mention it very frequently ands casually in Connecticut, and it almost always seemed like a non-issue which was cool. I can't quite figure out Asheville though, and so I've been pretty closety here.

 

closeted in asheville?

asheville is pretty damn open about homosexuality in general.

 

I don't know if I see it. I see a lot of Abercrombie-obsessed gay boys and otherwise liberal straight people slinging slurs. I still think there are good things to find in Asheville, but I find myself longing more and more for Connecticut where more people were *real* whatever else their faults.

Peace,
Ryvr

 

I've never been in the club scene/bars in Asheville. Therefore I haven't really met any of the gays you're describing.

The gay guys I encountered tended to be more of the hipster type. Which can be just as bad as the "abercrombie" kind I suppose. However, there are plenty of gay men in Asheville. Just got to look around.

 

Never, I mentioned it to my mother a few times, but outside of her, nobody.

Where I live, well it wouldn't be pretty if I went around and told everybody... Very few are accepting of it. It seems that most people would rather see us dead.

 

On occasion.

 

Sorry if some of my phrases will be not understood cuz i'm not from english-talking country. Exactly, I have the same point of view. I never try to hide the fact that I'm a gay but also never want to conciously demonstrate my sexuality to the others. At first, I think that sexuality is a kind of intimate, so personal things and your sex life does not matter other people. If It's intimate, just leave it behind the door of your be room. The second, for me gay orientation is such natural as hetero either asexual, then there's no need to make it difference by saying "i'm so proud of being gay, of belonging to a scpecial class of society". Yes, people hate gays because of there extremal sexual showing. It's enough to have institutional homophobia, let's stop internalized homophobia.

 

it's a secret to most of the people who know me
and i seldom mention it except for jokes

 

i dont mention it at all now. i was all out about it but then my mom and grandma was really really freaked out about it when i told them so i try not to keep bringing it up... but im bisexual. it's great being an outcast of my own family..but o-well

 

I actually havents told anyone one about my sexuality. In fact all of them assume that I am heterosexual.My friends are all homophobic, every single one of them, except for two. Therefore, I am not obvious about it and if you were to talk to me in person you wouldnt assume that I was gay.

 

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I never reveal my true sexuality. For reprisals and those with sad closed minds, would condemn me and perhaps beat me up. It happened once and I learned from that. Since then, I never talked about it openly with my folks.

 

I don't hide it, but most people can't ever figure out that I'm gay anyway, particularly now that I'm single. Also, I tend to make loads of sexual/misogynistic jokes with my girl friends, which makes it all the more confusing (or obvious, if you're smart).