Coming out why is it so hard?

i just don't get it one minute I want to scream to everyone that I'm gay and I don't care what they'll say and then five minutes later I'm so afraid everyone will judge me and I want to cry!!! It's not right, It's not fair!!! And yea I know even if I wasn't gay people would still judge me and they do judge me everyday every minute!!! And I know that wheather I keep this secret to myself or let people know it they will both change my life I just wish I knew which would change it for the best!!

 

letting people know would change it for the best. who are you trying to please, anyway?

 

I know EXACTLY how you feel, the night before I decided to come out I was literally jumping around my room laughing, I couldn't see a problem, but then when it came to it I couldn't even tell some of my best friends... All I can say is, just do whatever feels right at the time - maybe tell one best friend, and no-one else? If you are really not ready, just keep it to yourself, but don't let it ruin your life. One of the worst things I did was to not tell some of my friends, because they're kind of against it, but then hold it against them - for example, I'd be hugging my friend when suddenly I'd think "Would she still do this if she knew I was bi?" and I'd decide probably not. Then I'd get all spiteful against her, but what I didn't see was that I was the one judging her...

 

I have a friend (no, seriously!) who, when faced by things like this, decides to sleep on it. So let's say you decide to come out to someone really important. Sleep on it, and, if in the morning, you STILL feel certain that you want to do it, do it. If you wake up and don't want to tell this person , you're left with this tremendous feeling of relief that you didn't do it. If that makes sense.

 

Thats so strange - I feel EXACTLY the same way. Maybe its something that happens at our age, that we get over after a while. By the way - Bocks - that is a hideous Signature =P Poor Paul McCartney..